When I decided to have the surgery, I consulted with the Mayo Clinic and with a Colon/Rectal surgeon in Minneapolis who was trained at the University of MN. They all agreed surgery was necessary. The Mayo gave the go ahead for a J-Pouch even given my age at the time (age 60), but the Colon/Rectal surgeon advised a perm. ileo because she said the older you are, the more chance of J-Pouch problems and failure. I had been through 6 years of serious UC and now was headed for some serious surgery. What I didn't want was the possibility of a failure down the road that would mean more surgery and recovering so I chose the perm ileo.
I'm 6 months with the ileo and doing great. I am a full time gardener, grandmother, and one very busy person. I got my life back and feel I can do anything I put my mind to. UC had robbed me of that, but the ****** lost and I came out a winner.
Any decision is a persoanl one, and yes, a difficult one, but you really have to look at it in respect to your own life.
I wish you well.