Mike that's terrible. I couldn't imagine that AFTER you've had your colon removed. They said the inflammation in my recital stump was to bad to construct a pouch during the colon removal and I've literally gone to the bathroom once and it was like 2 days after surgery, had no urgency/pain/blood. I've felt a little pressure once or twice since but that's it. I had my surgery 2 weeks ago.
Maybe the perm ileo would be your best bet. After finding out how severe a jpouch removal would be you should seriously talk to your doc and consider removing that stump. Life with an ileo isn't bad at all. Especially with things like the StealthBelt or the wraps from ostomy secrets.
Good luck with whatever you choose and I really hope that inflammation gets under control.
Edit: I just re-read your original post and I know your concern about
meeting people and at your age it's valid. But guess what bud? Most people really don't give a crap and everyone has their own insecurities, whether it's webbed toes or a cleft lip or in our case a butthole next to our bellybutton. Either way, it's yours, it saved your life so own that crap! Plus finding a partner is about
experiences, good and bad and making it through them. I really wouldn't worry about
meeting someone and that hindering you, most people are more curious about
it than they are disgusted. Plus only 75k a year get any sort of ostomy surgery, that doesn't make us one of a kind but it does make us rare which is kind of cool in my book. But yea, check out stealthbelt.com and ostomysecrets.com they've got some products that will make you more secure in public or intimate situations. I've ordered my stuff and when it comes in ill post my "review" in the forums
Post Edited (Rabbit81586) : 2/11/2014 5:21:57 AM (GMT-7)