I am also sorry about this dilemna that your husband has contributed too. I have just had reversal surgery of my illeostomy and, despite the diarrhea that I am experiencing about 15 times a day, I am pleased that I was fortunate enough to have this reversal procedure completed.
With my illeostomy, I was using a ConvaTec 2-piece ostomy system (wafer and bag) as well as both adhesive removal, skin prep and ostomy paste. I have several never-opened wafres, bags and wipes in my suppliers that I would be happy to donate.
Please let me know what type of supplies (name brand, model #, etc) you need and maybe I will be able to donate these to you. I have approx 3 months worth of supplies f\depending on how often you change your appliance