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Posted 1/3/2016 7:18 PM (GMT 0)
I am still having trouble accepting my new life. But I realized I have this other worry, or maybe it's still from pre-ostomy….

I constantly look for bathrooms and worry now about other people needing them. Just watching a movie about New York made me anxious because I worried that they didn't have bathrooms in the subway and I know the horror of having to go and not having anywhere to go!

Anyone else go thru this? What do you do about it?

It honestly consumes me a lot of my day (if I leave the house). I can't stop thinking about it. It makes me anxious and really pretty upset.

Please help…any advice, stories, connections/understanding, suggestions….whatever. I can't keep going this way…I will never accept my ostomy (even though I don't need a rush to the bathroom like i used to!) if i keep feeling this way.

Thanks for the help,

Sunny13
Posted 1/4/2016 3:35 AM (GMT 0)
Sunny, I drive a school bus and used to worry constantly about the bathroom. I worried I wouldn't make it to the bathroom and my bag would pop. Yikes

Well, it happened one morning. My bag came off in my lap while I was trying to add coconut oil to my diet. Big mistake as it made my output oily. I was driving my high school route to school and I was like oh shi*.

Well, I grabbed a couple of cloth diapers I used to wipe the windows and stuffed them over my stoma. I dropped the kids at school and went straight to my layover location and put on a new wafer and bag. No problem.

A few week back, I had a defective bag. Same thing. I drove a bus of middle schoolers with no bag. My shirt was soaked as was my pants. Nobody noticed but me. I dropped them off and drove to my parking location as quickly as I could with a cloth diaper over my stoma.

I have emptied my bag on the side of the road as well as into another bag.

I take Devrom, so I hardly ever have any odor with output.

I'm not scared anymore about leaks or finding bathrooms. Just remember you can empty anywhere and it doesn't have to be a bathroom.
Posted 1/5/2016 3:20 AM (GMT 0)
thanks for the response. i worry about my own "issues" as well as bathroom issues of other people. there was a local news story about a new treatment for children with bladder issues and the kid's picture and name was in it. I figured this meant he would be teased to no end because of other children hearing about it. I can't move forward in my life. I am obsessed with people's bathroom issues, etc, even though I don't have to worry too much about it anymore!
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