Hey! Some advice:
I've taken to wearing tight strap tops tucked or pinned down to my underwear underneath whatever shirt or dress I'm wearing to hold everything in.. It seems to work pretty well :) And why not wear tights (hose) on your hips, underneath the stoma?
Also I've found that things with prints are good at disguising bags, even if you're wearing a shirt with a pattern or picture on the opposite side to the stoma.
Another thing is/are tops or dresses that are gathered/ruched at the hip, especially if it's the stoma side as the folds will disguise the bag; and in England at the moment there's a huge fashion for smocky-type tops which are gathered at the bust and then loose and baggy down from there. They're good if you wear a tight vest underneath, or even without.
Also, I found on ebay this:
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/UROSTICKA-The-Urostomists-Stoma-Sticker_W0QQitemZ110176846462QQihZ001QQcategoryZ36440QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem
(sorry, long link!) Which looks like a cool idea; and yesterday there was a lady on there who sews bag covers in funky materials, like pillowcases for your bag! But she's disappeared.. still, it's always worth looking..
And of course there's places like White Rose : http://www.whiterosecollection.com/ Which have pretty things specially for ostomates :)
Hope any of that helped :P
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