Thanksgiving Family coming over

So since my moms mom passed away a year or so ago my mom is trying to keep everybody together. Soo... she invited 22 people to come and stay at our house for thanksgiving.. 7-12 days they'll stay.

The thing is my aunt is one of thoughs people who have something against Ostomie bags. She didnt even know what it was until i got my surgery done. She "my aunt" really wont let me stay in the same room. she thinks she has power over me since im only 16 and tells me what to do and doesnt like me to be in the kitchen when they cook at my house. The thing is i always cooked with my dad and she says i wont be cooking because "what if the bag rips open and gets on the food" and possibly someone can get sick? she doesnt know anything really. 3 of my cusions are the same way. "one of them sent me to the hospital before, he got alot of dirt in my eye and i couldnt wash it out"

so this is just gonna be another one of the holidays where i have to stay in my room because they'll yell at me. Maybe they want me to feel different? im not any different then them if anything im better then them because i dont treat people like crap if they have some type of medical condition.

Im just not wanting to take their crap anymore im 16 not 6.

Would it be mean to tell them to shut up when they really get under my skin?

Thanks. And as for Bob all we can really do is pray and hope he's alright.

Summerstorm...even after this crappy day you still make me laugh...bless you!

I can't believe the ignorance of some people. It saddens me so much to hear people are so nasty about this. I am so lucky with my family and friends they all treat me the same as they always have with the utmost respect and if anything I'm the paranoid one thinking I smell when actually I don't and they have all said they would tell me if I ever did but they all said in the 18 months I have been an ostomate they said I have never had a bad odour at all. Have you spoken with your parents about this? Perhaps you need to discuss this with them before the family gets together and hopefully they will be the ones to step up and give them what for. You don't deserve to be treated that way. I hope you get to enjoy your holiday
Take care
Doreen

you know, i started wondering what kind of cooking does she think you do that one, if the bag did rip open it would get out of your clothes and fly onto the food? does she think you cook naked? and even if you did, (which don't) the food wouldnt be below your waistline, when i cook, and im short, my food is always above my stomach and my stoma, so if it did rip open, unless i was cooking with the food at knee level or gravity ceased to work the poop would go down, and not up to where i was even cooking.
Just one more bit of evidence to her stupidty.

I cannot believe there are so many people out there who think it's OK to treat others so badly. I'm a mother of a 4 year old who had her surgery last November. I cannot for one second imagine anyone treating my daughter so poorly. Do your parents know how she treats you and how it is affecting you. Maybe they don't realize how it makes you feel. I'm all about respecting your elders too..but your aunt is definitely crossing the line. You have every right to put her in her place, first I would have a talk with your parents though. I would not welcome anyone in my home that did not treat my child with respect. You need to let everyone know exactly how your family is making you feel. Do not keep that inside and please do not hide in your room b/c of those ignorant people. You have every right to enjoy a wonderful holiday with your family.
I feel so bad for you David. I really do hope everything works out for you, you sound like a very mature and intelligent person. You don't deserve to be treated like that.

ha ha david!!!
But i agree with katiesmommy, there is no way i would let someone in my home who was hurting my child if i knew about it. I don't care who it was or their circumstances. I know you are only 16, but you are old enough that you have the ability to stand up for yourself and to tell them, hey look i'm important and i matter, and you are being a b&*(^ only not with that word.
Like is aid, you gotta give an insult where people don't know they are getting an insult, that way you don't look bad but they get the point.

David
Maybe you could print this thread and give it to her and anybody else that needs it. If she would read it at least it would keep her busy for a while. Stand up for yourself. Tell her you are a young adult and DEMAND her respect. Don't let her push you around, push back. Remember, we are your friends here and expect a report on how the day went. It's up to you now.

Dan