Good luck to your daughter, and to you, worried LOVING mom 1. I have dealt with my Crohn's Colitis [very much like UC symptom-wise] for 5 years and am electing to have a permanent ileostomy this summer. Nobody knows what it is like until they have personally been through it or watched a loved one go through it.
Your friends don't have a clue. Your daughter is your only concern and I think you are doing the right thing. HUGS to you and your daughter. Keep us posted on how the surgery went. We care.