Aw...my heart goes out to you. I remember seeing your name over on the UC board. So sorry you are having such difficulty.
It never ceases to amaze me when these GI doctors say, "Your condition really isn't THAT bad." When you are having such severe symptoms you feel like whacking them over the head and asking them to trade places with you! I suffered with UP (proctitis) for twelve years before deciding on surgery. After being diagnosed in 1998, I was able to attain a two year remission on a tapering dose of prednisone, Asacol and Rowasa. Following my second flare in 2000, I was placed on Colazal, as it treats the rectum better than Asacol, another tapering dose of prednisone and, of course, Rowasa. Another two year remission, then placed on Prednisone (again), Colazal (which I never stopped taking), rectal meds...Cort enemas this time and now 6MP. Long story short, the 6 mp never kept me in a long term remission. I became prednisone dependent, tried Remicade and then Humira with both of them failing.
All my scopes read...."moderate" proctitis. If this were moderate, I would hate to see what severe was like. My GI doctor REFUSED to send me to a surgeon. All he wanted to do was try more and more meds. He sent me to a "world reknown" GI doctor over at the Univ of Pa Hospital by the name of Leichenstein. All that guy did was talk about all the articles he wrote for the medical journals. Who gave a rat's behind? Back to my regular GI. I didn't say anything to him at first, but I looked up my surgeon online and did some research. I knew I definitely did not want my surgery done here in south Jersey at a local hospital. I found Dr. Robert Fry, head of colorectal surgery at Pennsylvania Hospital in Philly. I was not a candidate for j-pouch because of 1)least of all my age 63 at the time 2) prednisone dependent for two years straight but on it numerous times before and 3) other health issues like uncontrollable high BP due to prednisone and type 2 prednisone induced diabetes. I even had to pass a stress echo cardiogram before he would operate.
Here it is over two years post op. I had a long recovery, but, would I do it all over again? In a heartbeat! Before surgery I took 17 - 25 pills daily, now I only take 1 and that is for my very well controlled BP. I no longer have diabetes. I will forever have osteoporosis because of the prednisone. I am 66 yrs old and living life to the fullest.
Sorry so long, but that is my story. Oh...my surgeon told me my rectum was BADLY diseased...so much for the "moderate" UP.
Whatever you decide....do your research. You know your own body. God bless and good luck.