Keeping your spirits up

I've had my mom in a nursing hom close to me now for 3 months.

I go over 4 to 5 times a week.  I do her hair, we listen to

music programs they have, go to the ice cream socials, take her candy and

McDonalds hamburgers which she enjoys.  What ever

activity is going on I go as often as I can.

My problem is that it is getting hard to keep my spirits up.  We have

conversation but it only consisits of what has gone on in her hallucinations,

no reality in volved at all.  I listen, some of them are shocking, I'm sure

I look startled.  If I try to tell her what has gone on in my day, she might

smile for a bit and the go right on to the next story.

I might add, over the last 7 years, I have been in charge of finding a place for my mom

and dad, selling their house and most of their posessions, finding an attorney, paying bills, buying

their clothes, you name it I did it.  Taking off work when they were ill and in the hospital.  All things

we should do for our parents.

I seem to handle that better than whats going on now.

Any suggestions?  seh4ku 

Hello,

I wish with all my heart I could give you some words to ease your burden.  Your Mom is so blessed to have a daughter such as you.

I believe the best thing you can do for yourself and her is to find something to be thankful daily.  I took care of my Mom the last 6 months of her life and though I couldn't see the blessing of that time with her, I now look back on that time as very precious.

We are never given more than we can handle, whether it be living with PD in our own body or living with PD in someone we love.  Hang in there and know you are blessed.    Kay

Thank you for reminding me, its one day at a time.

I have thought that many times but it gets lost sometimes.

I will check into the meds.  She has been on so many for so

long, I cant help but think that is not good.  She is very sensitive

to new meds so we will have to go slowly.

Have a Happy Thanksgiving.

seh4ku