just know you are not along keep your head up high and know you have done nothing wrong, it's the meds
Sorrel Horse said...
No one has posted to this forum for quite a while, so I'm not sure if it's still active, but I'll go ahead and post anyway. My husband has had Parkinson's for 16 years, and he's doing well thanks to good doctors, proper meds, and most of all because of his very active lifestyle. BUT...MIRAPEX HAS CAUSED TERRIBLE PROBLEMS FOR US FOR 13 YEARS!!! I've read so many other accounts of the same hypersexuality problem. It truly is an addiction, and like so many others, my husband does not want to admit that Mirapex is causing this. Every now and then, when he sees how stressed out and sad I am, he will admit that there is a problem and it's his fault. But that is seldom. Usually it's a matter of him ignoring what I say or just flatly denying that the Mirapex (and now the generic, pramipexole) is the cause of his EXTREME hypersexuality. This has caused major stress and unhappiness in our life. He spent many years being very angry and hateful because he felt that it was my responsibility to yield to his constant pressure for sex. I couldn't even count the number of times I have said the same things to him...over and over and over and over...telling him that the meds are the problem and that this is out of control and it's making my life miserable. I've lost sleep over it and have cried and cried and ranted and yelled, but all to no avail. Every now and then, I think he MIGHT be starting to understand, and sometimes he will even say he's sorry and will ask me to give him one more chance and be patient. But it always goes back to the same thing, with him putting pressure on me in all kinds of ways and then acting as if he's deprived or I'm unfair when I won't go along. After 13 years of this, I am weary and worn down and sad. There is no feeling or love with this constant obsession with sex. It is an addiction, and he is like any other addict--rationalizing and justifying his actions and feelings and blaming me for not going along. And yes, I have gone along many, many times when I did not want to, and that is heartbreaking and depressing. It just eats away at our relationship, and he does not understand. He wants to avoid the truth and keep on telling himself that there is nothing wrong with him and it's my fault. As I said, every now and then he will admit that it is his fault, but that's always short-lived. In a short while, or at least by the next day, it's back to the same routine--constant pressure in one way or another, even if it's only him sitting in the living room and moping--and I know exactly what's on his mind. It is constant, and it's damaged our relationship to the point where I feel angry and resentful toward him all the time. And he asks why I feel that way--and yet he KNOWS why I feel that way. I've talked to him over and over and have given him the facts many times, but if he listens at all, he quickly forgets it. He doesn't want to see the truth--he only wants to focus on his addiction to sex and continue to justify it. For the most part, the doctors (Parkinson's specialists) want to ignore this problem, or at best, they discuss it briefly, write it down in their records as "hypersexuality," then go on. They don't WANT to hear about it, but when we go to the next appointment, which is soon, I am going to bring it up and I am going to tell them how it is--no more holding back or allowing them to brush it off. They are going to hear the TRUTH of what this drug has done to our lives and our relationship. I feel sure that many more people are having similar problems, but they're too embarrassed to speak the truth to their doctors. I've read over and over of lives destroyed because of the effects of Mirapex (and Requip), and I have to wonder why this drug is even still on the market. Yes, there are people who benefit from is and don't suffer any severe side effects, but after reading about it for so many years, I really wonder just how many people are suffering in silence. How many have lost marriages, homes, their dignity, their jobs, their money, their health--or any number of other things--because of the destructive side effects of Mirapex and other dopamine agonists?