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Posted 1/31/2008 1:30 AM (GMT 0)
Of course, it applies to Bill, too...for a small fee I will bail you both out...once...then boys, yer on yer own ;-)
Posted 4/17/2008 1:51 AM (GMT 0)

Gordy said...

lifeline-

I don't know how or why you "gain such strength and hope from you", but I'm humbled by your words. Thank you.

My pearls of wisdom for you tonight are that you are the best ally your husband has. And as such, you have two particularly hard jobs, as does my wife and the other wives here. You have to be strong for your husband and help him to make choices and give him the will to fight. This is probably the hardest thing you've ever done, or will do.

The other thing you have to do, for both of you, is to take care of yourself. It's important for you to have some time away from the "situation" to catch your breath. Enjoy your time with the family and don't feel guilty. You have nothing to feel guilty about. Taking time for yourself not only helps you, but, it gives you strength to deal with your husband's problems, too.

I hope my ramblings make some sense and that things start looking up for you two. It's time.

-Les

Hi Les,

Just a refresher about "thinkin' of you" as Walt posted.  I saw this post on lifeline~Kathy's thread post and was deeply touched by your unselfish friendship here.  Time and again you have touched many here with beautiful Love and support.  This is one of those bluebird <<<hugs>>>, and I am not ashamed to send one to you.  If you call this rambling, as an old favorite song goes, "Lord, I was born born a ramblin' man". 

So now it's my turn to "ramble", if it's ok?  Thank you for being you.  Thank you for being our friend.  I know you do not share my feelings about this part but it is well intended.  But May God bless you and Carol.  You have done much good for all of us and I will keep praying that you are always blessed with peace. 

Hey I feel kinda nice when I'm rambling...

(PS: I wasn't really rambling)

Your friend,

Tony

Posted 4/17/2008 2:36 AM (GMT 0)
Hey Tony-

I just had Carol read your post and I asked her how I should respond, because I'm really at a loss for words.

I'm going to share something with you that is very personal. When I was told that the "beast" had spread to my lungs I started seeing a therapist. Gina is neither a psychiatrist nor a psychologist, but, rather, has the designation ED.S after her name. I was referred to her by my health insurance company. She's about 17 years my junior and extremely intuitive and there are weeks when I have nothing in particular to discuss, but keep the appointment anyway because I enjoy being in her company and trying to stump her with questions about this or that, which I don't think she can answer, but, somehow, she always does. On many occasions I have started the same discussion with her - that I don't feel that I have contributed anything to the world. I feel that my life has just about balanced out: I've worked to earn money to support myself and everything is pretty much even. I haven't done anything particularly special to help the world. Have done nothing to earn fame or fortune. Not many people know me or my name and when I'm gone, only a few will be there to say goodbye or to remember me.

And Gina always counters my argument by saying that what I've done in my life is to be nice to people, to make them smile and feel good. And I know that to be true, but, haven't been convinced that that was worth much. Until I got here to HealingWell. You and many of the others have reinforced what she's been telling me and I can't begin to tell you how much that means to me.

I'm going to end now because I'm getting kind of emotional. But I do promise to continue doing what I've been doing because despite what I think about its worth, apparently you guys think differently. Thank you.

-Les
Posted 4/17/2008 3:42 AM (GMT 0)
Gordy, I haven't chimed in here, but I have kept up with your posts and those who have responded. I, for one, think you're terrific and an inspiration to all of us. I can't speak for anyone else, but you have made a contribution to my life. I wish you many more years, and when our time comes, I hope we both go out with a martini in hand and a WOOHOO on our lips!
Posted 4/17/2008 4:01 AM (GMT 0)
Les-
Your wife, Gina and Tony are all right. We need you, adore you and appreciate you in more ways then you can begin to understand. So, know that while you might not leave this earth famous, you have made a difference in so many of our lives. You give us hope, humor and strength. I will never forget you or so many others here on HW for that. Thanks for being you.

Chayna
Posted 4/18/2008 3:19 AM (GMT 0)
Touch a life ~ with a Hug It can change ... their life   Dear Gordy,   It’s amazing what kindness and friendship can do for ones spirit…   I have a huge smile on my face…  I would really like to hug your neck at this moment.     You “were” a man of few words and over the past year you have shared some powerful personal feelings with “all of us”… and we are so thankful to be walking with you and Carol…as you continue to walk with all of us.   Thank you for allowing us to touch your life with bluebird Hugs …   I wasn’t sure the reaction I would get when I sent my 1 st one… but I knew in my heart that it was my way of reaching out.   And you reached back ~ Thank you!!   I like Gina…. Please tell her we send a special Hug to her!!   We continue to keep you close ~ http://i206.photobucket.com/albums/bb179/mamabluebird1955/BluebirdStayClose.jpg Warm Thoughts and Gentle Hugs from Lee & Buddy    P.S. After re-reading a reply post from above ~ no apology is necessary.   If you slip and I see that you are having a r ebarbative moment... I'll be sure to let the "Newbie" read your threads!  Knowing where you've been, where you are, says so much. Thank you so much for your heartfelt sharing...
Posted 4/18/2008 2:47 PM (GMT 0)

Les,

Oh, my dear friend, you have made such a difference in this world. You have changed people in more ways than you will ever know. I was told one time that if you can help one person or change the life of one person, you change the whole world. Everything is different after that change. You have changed the world. I don't think many of us will get a spot in any history books, but you have a whole chapter in my life's book. How about that big guy! Keep telling your story and fighting your fight. You are changing lives. I'm going to keep praying and you keep fighting, we are winners! Winners!

Les gets the WAR EAGLE of the day award!

Love ya bother,

Walt

Posted 4/18/2008 3:53 PM (GMT 0)
Yep...I'm all for that, Walt!

Les,

You know what I think of you, you big lug! cool
The secret to your "winning personality" is this: You are Y....O....U and that's what we love about you. Easy.

Oh yeah, your dear wife is a SAINT! smurf

Susan
Posted 4/19/2008 7:08 PM (GMT 0)
"Oh yeah, your dear wife is a SAINT!"

Susan, you no idea! But don't tell her I said that.

-Les
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