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Posted 6/26/2008 6:20 PM (GMT 0)
I was 44 when this monster entered my life, so to turn 46 it is with Hope that we keep counting upwards, for all of us.  But I feel somewhat blue.  I'm praying for Biker and Hoping for good results there and today our friend Walt is in the infusion room again.  In addition, this is still my round of firsts.  It's my first birthday after my mom has passed on.  I've been thinking about it a bit since I returned from Alabama, and did not quite know how to deal with it.  I guess that hurting never stops?  Anyway.  I Love all of you here and want to wish you all a good day.  And save the happy bdays and make them prayers for our friends...That's a much better use of your very positive energy anyway.  Oh yes and Cancer ~ Eat my shorts...

Tony

 

Posted 6/26/2008 6:59 PM (GMT 0)

Tony,

Thinking of and especially praying for you, Biker, and Walt today. 

Gene214 

Posted 6/26/2008 7:00 PM (GMT 0)
I bet we can do both, so here:  Happy Birthday, Tony, even if it is a bittersweet one, and here's my hope and prayers for our other brothers who are in the middle of some heavy stuff.  See, multi-tasked that puppy....

Posted 6/26/2008 7:38 PM (GMT 0)

I hear you Tony, it's hard to be a happy boy when friends are having a such a tough time. Your unselfish caring for others here while you have such a battle going on yourself inspires me.

Thanks Brother,

Pete

PS> prayers for Biker & Walt!!!!!!!

Posted 6/26/2008 8:52 PM (GMT 0)
Tony,
Today is our wedding anniversay and I thank GOD everyday for the time I am having with Kent. 3 months ago I wasn't sure what was going to happen. Now he is back at work, doing well and zero PSA. I realize there are others that are not as fortunate as we are and I think of them everyday and keep the prayers going for all of you. I went thru this same surgery as Jim with my mom 2 years ago. Sounds almost identical so I know this is a tough time.
I will continue to pray for recovery for Jim and strength for his wife and family. I also thank you everyday for your advice and always being there, no matter what is asked of you. You as everyone here is very special in our hearts.
Cindy
Posted 6/26/2008 9:25 PM (GMT 0)
Tony,

Your mom, Walt and Biker will be in my prayers this evening. And happy birthday, brother, may you have many, many more.

Jack
Posted 6/26/2008 9:43 PM (GMT 0)
Tony-

Happy Birthday from a really old fart.

And, no, the hurt/sadness never goes away completely, but it does get easier as the years pass by.
Posted 6/26/2008 9:44 PM (GMT 0)

Tony,

Hang in there.  You are in everyone's thoughts.  We all get down as you know.  I cycle up and down every day.  I agree with you about what cancer can do with your shorts.  I'll throw mine in to...and one of my kids diapers...

Chris

Posted 6/26/2008 10:36 PM (GMT 0)
Tony I can understand how you feel. Sometimes this enemy we call cancer can beat us up and spit us out, then there are those times when friends like here on HW come together and share each others burdens and joys and it makes me realize this enemy is only as big as we allow it to be. My prayers are truly with you on this special day. We are united my dear brother in more ways than you know. In Sept I lost my mother to lung cancer at the age of 60 and I was born on her birthday, and now I battle the same enemy. Hang in there and find blessings amidst the chaos. We shall celebrate more birthdays in the future, and I to will pray for biker, walt and you.

peace and love
Dale
Posted 6/26/2008 10:57 PM (GMT 0)
happy birthday. i can't tell you how much help you have been to me in responding to my threads (especially the one on early psa tests after surgery). i am a worrier but get by logging in and seeing what is going on and new developments on this site. you know how much help you have provided to a lot of us in a very short period of time.
Posted 6/26/2008 11:33 PM (GMT 0)

Hi Tony.

 Happy birthday pal.  I know it is a tough situation but you have a lot of friends here and in other places thinking of, and supporting you.

Mika

Posted 6/26/2008 11:36 PM (GMT 0)
It is a measure of our compassion for our fellow man when their trials affect us deeply. It is to your great credit that your feeling for others and their troubles are mentioned on the same level as your feeling for yourself and your problems. As far as I am concerned it is the measure of a mighty fine person. Happy birthday and may you have many more of them.
Bill
Posted 6/26/2008 11:40 PM (GMT 0)

Dear Tony,

You have every right to feel a little melancholy now and then.  You have advanced prostate cancer and so do friends of yours.  I think that you handle yourself with dignity and courage, but a bit of sorrow is part of the human condition.  You give greatly to your fellow man.  You are important to many who suffer.  Tony, you are a worthy man.  I am proud to know you.

Regards,

Bill


Posted 6/27/2008 12:12 AM (GMT 0)
It is normal to take stock and reflect on birthdays and other milestones.  Like many of us here, I'm sure your life has taken a different path than was ever planned or expected.  But you have taken the opportunity to help and encourage so many.  The caring and support is amazing here and you are such a big part of that.  I wish the very best for you today and in the days to come.   

Posted 6/27/2008 1:24 AM (GMT 0)
Tony,

Been a heck of a year, hasn't it? We've talked about losing your mom before and on a day like today it's only normal to feel the way you do. Your mom's thinking of you today, too. And she's smiling. So just tell her how you feel...it will be good for both of you.

cancer does brings with it a sadness - inescapable at times. But there's nothing wrong with that and we need to see that part of it, too, so we know we're normal!
You have so many more wonderful moments, Tony, and you share them with all of us. We appreciate that so very much.

So Happy Birthday - we're fortunate to have you here. I'm going to assume you know what I mean...you do,right?

Susan
Posted 6/27/2008 2:08 AM (GMT 0)

My Friend you are and will continue to be in my prayers.

Richard

PS

 

Posted 6/27/2008 2:18 AM (GMT 0)
Happy birthday my friend!!!

Just repeat after me: IIWII
It is what it is - simple yet meaningful!
Posted 6/27/2008 3:10 AM (GMT 0)

Tony,

Just got back in from rehearsal. I am glad you called before we left. We are singing on Friday night just south of here at a music festival. I'll sing one for you. Real cool, they expect a crowd of around 4000. Rocking for Jesus. It don't get any better.

I lost my father back in 1977. It still is hard, but like your mom, I know where he is. Maybe they are together watching over us. I think they both would be proud. Your a good man.

I don't know about the shorts, but like Hannah.................."Cancer fears me".

Keep living the War Eagle spirit.

Peace brother,

Walt

Posted 6/27/2008 3:22 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Tony,

I'm trying to think of something clever to say, but everything that comes to mind has already been said. So, I'll just add my name to all of those before me and wish you a very happy birthday and many, many happy returns.
Thinking of you.


Magaboo
Posted 6/27/2008 3:23 AM (GMT 0)

Mr. Tony!!!

Happy Birthday to a man with enough love in his heart to fill the Grand Canyon!  yeah

We owe a lot to your love and care for this important forum.  Thank you for being you!

The aching you have for your dear Mother is most normal.  My Mom is 93 and I cherish each time I can talk or be with her.  My dear Dad passed away many years ago, but the love is still there.

God bless you, brother. 

Posted 6/27/2008 4:36 AM (GMT 0)

Hi Tony,

Happy Birthday to you and May God Bless you and all of our friends here who have to deal with this dreaded cancer.  I know you miss your mom alot, I lost my mom in 2007 to lung cancer and yes it is hard to deal with daily life when you can't just pick up the phone and say hey mom how do I? do you remember when? or just a simple Hi mom how are you? I planted a tree when she died and sometimes when I'm feeling a little blue and missing her I go outside and sit near the tree and try to think of the good times I shared with her. I'm sure your mom is looking down and smileing knowing that her son is a very good man and very content knowing that her son is married to a solid wonderful woman named Ruthie. What more can a mom want for her son.  Hang in there Tony, time will help ease the pain but the love will never end.

Diana 

Posted 6/27/2008 5:22 AM (GMT 0)

Well.  That's why I hang here. 

I have a couple hours left of this first, and I will do so well with it.  Because of your posts today, you all (that would be 'yall' in Alabama) picked me right back up!  My son, Jeff is coming over any minute (he gets off at 10:00) to say a HBD, Ruthie had me out to dinner, I spoke to my sister, my nephew, I have all of you.  Still while I longed for my mother today, I also understand I'm very lucky to have had both parents as long as I have.  Jetguy your first edit was on the money, and you reminded me of that.  Thank you.  And thank you all!!  This is a great place to be.  Well, I'm 46.  It is what it is.  How simply profound.  And there (that would be Thay-er in Alabama) is always Hope. 

Cancer can still eat my shorts!  And Chris' kids diapers, too.

May God bless each and every one of you.  And I'm doing OK.  And these comments were a wonderful gift!

PS: Susan, I do. :-)

Gotta go, Jeff's here...I am a lucky man.

Tony

Posted 6/27/2008 2:23 PM (GMT 0)
Tony

I have been out a few days and catching up so here's a little late birthday wish and I hope you had a wonderful day. I know the strength you have and I am betting that you will be here supporting us all for so many years that we all lose count. There are down days but oh so many more to be thankful and happy for. Continued sucess my friend and you all have my continued prayers each day.

Norskie
Posted 6/27/2008 3:53 PM (GMT 0)

Tony-

I think I missed your birthday, but I wanted to let you know that like many others have said, it's ok to be down.  Besides, your birthday is OUR day to celebrate YOU!  :-) (As if we don't every other day of the year) Anyways, I wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you and thank God you are human.  I was beginning to think your had super human powers and were positive and happy 365 days a year.  I guess we will give you one day of being down :-)

On Father's Day, I was so happy to have my father with me, but was really depressed when he and my mom left.  I had to mentally tell myself, that life is about moments, no guarantees, just amazing moments.  I am thankful to God for all of them spent with my family and friends. May we all have many birthdays and milestones to share with our loved ones. 

Cheers to you on your special day (or a day past your special day), and may every day be a celebration.  Your friendship is an amazing gift and I celebrate you as you begin this new year of life and don't worry, we will be celebrating Walt at his "Still Alive at 65" birthday bash in ten years.    

Happy birthday and many, many more!

Posted 6/27/2008 11:13 PM (GMT 0)

Thanks for not being uphappy with me Tony.  I sometimes say too much and step on toes and I have no desire to do that.  My thoughts and beliefs and experiences aren't necessarily the same as others.

Bill

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