Men with much younger wives

The older the wife – the more likely she is to say: “There but for the grace of God, go I.”

 

We human beings are full of insecurities. But if your guy friends think their spouses will leave them for lack of sex, I wonder what they think the ladies will do when they’re in the final stages and are DIEING from cancer?

What shallow relationships those men must have, or think they have. These are really sad and pathetic examples. If there were true love present, then they would want to do whatever was possible and available to be alive for their spouse, regardless of age differences. Sounds like they are dooming themselves with that attitude.

David in SC

A wife chimes in...since my husband's surgery 11 months ago, being able to have intercourse is still something we hope for. I can't believe that any woman who loves her man would not want him to have treatment regardless of the post-treatment issues. Frankly, my husband's incontinence issues bother me more - for his sake - than lack of sex for either of us.

To avoid treatment because of fear of ED is just plain foolish ... I would much rather have my husband alive and with me than reminisce about what great sex we used to have!

I would need to know the stats on the 59 year old guy with the 24 year old wife.

If his stats are bad, his wife leaving him is the least of his problems.  He should get treatment.

If his stats give him some room to consider watchful waiting, I can understand why he would want to delay treatment. If he has ED after treatment, she's looking at a lot of years thinking about what she is missing.  IMO, regardless of the love between them, that's a lot to ask of a healthy 24 year old. 

I agree with you fully on that point, Billy. In the Pleasure Forest, there's more than wood to choose from

Diane,
Now you got me doing the blushers big time. When I wrote that, it was spur of the moment right off my head, didn't think about what I was saying. Glad you liked it, on rare occasions I can be funny.

What you wrote, however, was very touching, and my wife and I can relate to your words exactly, and btw, my wife is only 3 years younger, but looks 15 years younger, must be her natural red hair.

Thanks, David

I am 45 and my wife, God bless her is going to be 30 next week. She is loving and giving and patient. She misses the horn -dog I use to be but our relationship has matured and our twice a week blue pill induced bouts seem to be enough. When they are not that is why God gave me a toungue. lol. I hope I didnt offend anyone with that slip of the toungue. The point is that in a good marriage, sex is only 10 percent of the relationship and in a bad relationship it is more like 90 percent. Gee I do believe that I am a cunning linguist. ****. Todd

Ok, gentlemen, lets not wander off the path here. We need to keep our discussions of intimacy at least in some broad medical terminology format.. You knew that was coming, huh?

By the way David you are totally funny. We should hang out.

David
Maybe I should give you a call the next time I am in Pinehurst N.C. Of course I cant offord the greens fees at that place and they dont let hackers such as myself out on the course but I am sure we could go somewhere else and knock the ball around. That is if you are into knocking the ball around. Todd

Hi Bob D ,

I kind of see partially the worries of losing your MANHOOD (if temporary or long term ) as a great worry to most men , however men in general should also understand that it is NOT the only quality they can offer to a relationship or marriage.
I am one that all my life attracted younger women and married one that was 13 years younger as well .. however it tuned out to be that before i was DX with my prostate cancer our marriage was on a down hill swing , the ironic part of it , the marriage had all the best qualities that any marriage should have , but our divorce cam as a result of a sexual act on her part (cheating...and more over for the wrong reasons ..not that there is a good reason to cheat .. but there is a better reason than some... and since it was not for LOVE or SEX it was the wrong reason).
so i divorced her after 14 years of marriage and 2 kids ,an found myself battling prostate cancer and in the operating room for my RP... am about 20 months post op an just coming back into a normal sexual relations , and even though i must admit it is NOT back to Normal 100% yet .. i feel that my relationships these days based on much stronger foundation than just sex , there is a lot to offer to each other in a healthy relations, and SEX is not on top of the list , the fact is i can find sex anywhere i turn BUT i can not find a woman with substance every day of the week.
i have turn to a better person for it as i am not SEX crazed as i used to be pre-op (sure i miss the wild days of my late 40's) but o the other hand i can see the other side of life , and i agree for the most part with most of the posts here which points out that men who's base their sex life as the pillar that holds their relations or marriage , need an attitude adjustment immediately, especially when it comes to their health decisions... i wonder how much help they can get from their young wives when they gone off too early due to Cancer.

sure we all like to hang with the young herd, but it is for sure not for the right reasons, since most of us men like to inflate our ego , especially when it comes to our manhood (we can hardly wait to sit with the guys and tell our adventures ... we worry how satisfied in bed our women are.... etc etc )
so these 2 friends you know need a wake up call BIG TIME i can only prey and wish them well

GB

Very good post, Allousie