Sex after surgery

Spisam,
Yes, you have much to be thankful for. Your post PSA is excellent, you are all but dry, and you can have sex.

I admit to, it takes some getting use to an ejaculate free release. I have been having natural sex again since Jan. 24 of this year. At first, the orgasms were remote, shallow in depth, and more of an act of minor relief then that of pleasure. I was told by the more experienced here, that they get better over time.

I would say they are right. Now, almost 2 months later, when I climax, the contractions are strong and deep, no longer remorte. It kind of reminds me of the good old days when perhaps I had sex two or three times in a 24 hr period. By the tiem I had the 3rd one, I was pretty empty of fluids anyway, and I would always say that it hurt good. That's the best way I can make a comparisom.

The sooner you can disassociate your sexual relesease with fluid/ejaculate, the better your orgasms will feel. I know that is harder than it sounds, but its just training. I still find myself moving undershirts or sheets/blankets out of the way (for what now? lol). And yes, the wife does like the no mess or clean up factor. This is how it will be for us men the rest of our lives, so tell your mind that, and start enjoying the new way. Now when the big "O" hits me, its stronger and longer than before, that I know, and it still seems to be getting better over time.

Like you, spisam, I feel too lucky at this point. My first psa was good, I am all but completely dry, and from the time my 5th and final catheter was removed after 63 days, I have been able to achieve natural wood w/o any sex pills, pumps, or injections. So I have nothing to complain about considering just a few short months ago, I was dealing with an unexpected and agressive case of PC, that I thought would upset my life forever.

Good luck brother, I hope your pleasure will get better over time, it should.

David in SC

Well Tudpock,

I still can't believe that I don't need anything. Originally it was a non=sparing operation, then later my dr/surgeon said he simply didnt mess with the right side nerve bundle, but he said it looked scarred and damaged. My wife and I never expected any natural results again, but it is what it is, and we are thankful.

Are there things that I miss about my pre-surgery sex life? Of course, would be lying if I said I didn't. But it's all good right now, and I won't complain to anyone. As long as I can keep pulling zero psa's for many years to come, I am doing just fine.

David

I only talk about this sometimes to give hope to others here, you never know ahead of time exactly how things will turn out with ED, incontinence, etc.

Thank you all. David, its nice to know we can come on this forum and get honest, heart felt comments.

Sam

It took a while to disassociate orgasm from ejaculation, but after a while I have found that if you focus on the "feeling" of the orgasm, and controlling that, now that I have disassociated the two, it is better then before. Now I can extend the feeling longer then when I used to ejaculate. Also, one benefit of using the vacuum pump is that you can keep your erection for much longer and some men have become multi orgasmic with less time between orgasms. Now that I have had implant surgery, I can have an erection at will and maintain for as long as I wish... Maybe there are some benefits to having had the ED symptoms... lol

 Dude!  Don't worry, you'll get over it.  When I vocalized this feeling to the wife, she was happy to tell me, "at least the sheets arn't stuck between my legs in the morning."    Like you said, the PCa is GONE!

Good luck.