Hi Duckfan:
My docs gave me no dietary restrictions but told me that I might have some urgency or frequency with caffiene, alcohol and/or spicy foods. I tried them all during the first 3 months when I was on Flomax. I had no issue with spicy foods, but both alcohol and caffiene caused me to "go" more frequently. Now that I'm off Flomax I have my diet coke (with caffiene), drink alcohol in moderation like I used to do and still enjoy my spicy foods....all with no problems whatsoever.
So...why don't you give the caffiene a try (in moderation) and see what happens.
Hope all else is going well!
Tudpock