Posted 10/6/2009 2:10 AM (GMT 0)
Jennifer-
To answer some of your new posts-we interviewed two surgeons. It would have been three, but the Stanford surgeon had gone on a sabbatical and we felt that directed us to focus on southern California. We went to a University of Southern California "radical open" surgeon recommended by our in-law doctor and then to Dr. Ahlering at UC Irvine. The USC doc was nice, but as we started to ask questions, he stopped us and said, "If you don't mind, I would prefer to make my presentation to you since I have it memorized...in fact, I have a CD of the presentation I can give you...and then you can ask questions at the end." Okay..it was all fine, except when B asked, "what about a robotic assisted surgery?" He did not realize, at that point, that not all surgeons offered it. The answer was, as he crossed his arms, "I have been doing the open surgery for 25 years, and I am not about to try something new. I have the same blood loss statistics and surgery time of the robotic". When we asked about diet, exercise and relaxation exercises, his response was, "Don't do anything". This was a guy, by the way, who had a very large spare tire and did not appear to be very active. And I will share this...when we entered the elevator in that impressive glass building at USC, I looked at B and said, "I am sure of this...if Dr. XXX had prostate cancer himself, he would be having a robotic assisted prostatectomy!"
When we saw Dr. Ahlering the next morning, we asked, "Do you want us to wait until after you make your presentation before we ask questions?" His answer, "What? No..ask away!" He ended up answering all our questions (I had them written down-you must do this as you think of them before you meet Doc!) making a detailed drawing of the surgery technique, and walking the length of the campus with us to give us more time with him" In addition, it was obvious that Dr. A took good care of himself, was very fit and healthy! B was so comfortable with him, the decision was made. The connection is the thing.
Regarding lymph nodes, Dr. Ahlering does not take them as a matter of course. I had an aunt with breast cancer who suffered greatly from lymphedema after surgery, and I think it is an issue in prostate removal too (or any cancer). We do not fully understand the lymph system, but there is a school of thought that it may protect from the spread of cancer-so why remove the nodes just because they are there? I discussed this with Dr. Ahlering and he stated that he did not remove lymph nodes (the other Dr took all he could find), because he said, "With prostate cancer we are lucky in that we have PSA. One does not have to remove the lymph nodes to find out if cancer remains. All one needs is a blood test." (paraphrased from memory) I was very pleased to find a doctor that had that attitude, after all the research I had done and first hand knowledge I had of the suffering of lymphedema.
So much to consider...
Becky