Hitting the ED wall

Hi All,

At 46 its been almost eighteen months since surgery (nerve sparing). Still clear!

After using trimax (yep a very small dose does work!!) for a while, and getting tired of it, Cialis etc. I've simply given up.

Havent felt this low before.

Was very positive after surgery, cancer gone. PSA excellent. Really fit.

Also, let the exercise go, put on weight, poor pelvic floor routine...boy does that all come back to bite you!!! Stream slowed down, peeing too often. Missing the bowl.

Anyone been here before?

John

Not sure what order to put your issues in :

Sex is a hassle, no exercise, weight gain, depression

No exercise, weight gain, sex is a hassle, depression

Depression, no exercise, weight gain, sex is a hassle

Alll of your issues are common to PC. It is important ( in my opinion ) to put it in proper perspective. Depression is a very common thing for men who have had their manhood assaulted, their mortality questioned, and have wet pants besides. If depression is the leading cause, then seeking out professional help is the answer. Once you get that under control, the rest of the things will fall in line, as you begin to feel good about yourself.

If the added weight, or sex is the primary issue, those also can be corrected by seeking different kinds of professional help. There are personal trainers, health clubs, and others to give you assistance in the exercsie/weight gain area. There are professional sex counselors, who can help you and your partner in that area.

Lastly, there is Healing Well. I doubt that you can post anything here that several men have not dealt with already. I think you will find a bunch of guys who have had to deal with all of the above issues, and they are still in various stages of solving them. You are not alone in this fight.

Thanks for posting, and keep in touch. Talking is good for all of us.

Goodlife

Gotta admit, I almost strained my bladder muscles when I tried to outdo Jeff's golf tee markers on his pee gravel range.

John, yeah, I hear you, and trust me, I believe that all of us here feel the same way about the same things, but perhaps at different times.
My surgery was 13 months ago, and I am still with complications, still on another catheter, my 10th in all. When I had my surgery, I thought, this is it, the right thing to do, get rid of this cancer, heal up, move on. PC can have a mind of its own.

Sorry you feel the way you do, but thankful you decided to come back here again. You are at a very young age to be dealing with all you have been dealing with.

Depression usually comes in small steps, and if one is not careful (speaking first hand knowledge here), it can take you over. If you need to talk to your dr. about that, then by all means, even my GP is great on that subject.

With the set back I have had and still have going on in the past year, I have gotten slack (like Billy said above), I tell myself now, that as soon as I can be rid of this catheter, I want to start fresh, to get back into serious walking, to cut back on my beloved sweets, to start feeling like a human being again, instead of a patient constantly. I want 2010 to be the good year that I thought 2009 was suppose to be.

We are all here for you, you can vent ,you can talk about anything you want anytime you want, we will listen, and share with you.
You are not alone with your feelings.

Please stay in touch, and we can help each other.

David in SC

John,

Yes!!

You appear to have reached a degree of depression further then I did but you are a lot younger and if I was your age going through the ED stage I would probably be at the same place.  As you were I was really flying high after the surgery knowing my cancer was gone and probably would not return and when I stopped leaking it just seemed the recovery was going great.  Then the ED doldrums hit.  The pump was humilating, uncomfortable and I just could not see it as the answer.  The ED drugs did not even give me a single boost.  The injections worked and are the only thing that has kept some degree of intimacy going between my wife and I but our sex life before PCa was never a planned event and the quality of the spontaneity was great.  That is why two months ago I decided to have a penile implant.  I am actually having that done this coming Thursday.  There are risks and I know them and accept them but without the penile implant I can see our sex life slowly evolving into nothing and I am just not going to surrender to it.  When I discussed with my surgeon before the surgery the treatment of ED if I had it afterwards he laid out the process.  Pump, drugs, injections and implant.  He said that in most of the cases his clinic has handled, which in the hundreds if not thousands, most men using injections eventually either move to implant or just taper off until there is no sex.  If you have not already you should investigate implants.  You can search the web and find personal testimony from men and wives that have gone with the implant.  The implant has evolved a lot.  I will be having the AMS 700 LGX implanted.  This implant is a three piece device.  It also provides for both length and girth improvement over previous implants. 

The best way to kick the depression is to take control of the situation instead of letting it control your life. 

Wishing you the best and praying for you.

Tamu

Thanks guys. :)

Hey Tamu, all the best for Thursday as well.

John