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Posted 2/7/2010 3:36 PM (GMT 0)
Got home yesterday about 5pm. I think i took the walk,walk,walk to literally. I walked way to much on Sat. very sore. Did not get any sleep Friday night felt terrible yesterday, got all depressed last night trying to figure out this thing i got hanging out of me, my wife started crying so that made me change my thought process right away. She is a very emotional person, but she is the greatest wife. I feel way better this morning after a good nights sleep, the depression gone for now, most likely from being over tired. I also came home with my drain, 2 really small BM before left hospital. Feel much better about things today. Were you guys very indepedent or did you let your partner do most of everything? I think she wants to do more but i have a hard time letting her do things. Once again thank-you Roger for coming by to visit. I think we will have a long friendship. And thanks to everyone here at HW. Cath is supposed to come out Feb 15th that when i get my path report. Thanks again everyone.

Neal

Posted 2/7/2010 3:59 PM (GMT 0)
Glad you were able to walk so much (may seem like too much, and maybe better to cut back, but still good to walk). And good to hear you overcame the temporary depression. It hits most of us, for variable time frames.

Welcome back, and best wishes for post-op biopsy looking good!
Posted 2/7/2010 4:01 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Neal,

It takes a little patience to deal with catherer and other after surgery nuisances like gas.

The main thing the surgery is behind you.

Take care.

Mark
Posted 2/7/2010 4:19 PM (GMT 0)
Neal, glad you are safely back home, be easier for your recovery being in familiar turf.

My wife took a full week off after my surgery. She set up one of our spare bedrooms just like it was a little hospital room. Should add, that she is a nurse by trade. My open surgery was rough, was in the hospital 4 days, and for the first week at home, spent more time in bed than being up. I had lots of pain issues and had very little endurance when I was up. We are all different there.

I needed the extra care, and will always appreciate the care my wife gave during my roughest period. My 3 adult age children made sure that some or all of them checked in with me every day during the day when my wife went back to work. And if I needed anything, one of them would jump for the chance to help.

Its good for a recovering patient to do for themselves when they are able, but its also good to let your caregivers help you along the recovery path. Both are good, both are right.

David in SC
Posted 2/7/2010 6:05 PM (GMT 0)
Neal,
I'm glad you are physically and mentally feeling better. If your wife wants to help then let her do so, it probably makes her feel better. I tried to do what I could without help and only asked for help when I needed it.
Posted 2/7/2010 6:08 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Neal,
Glad you made it home okay. Is the leg bag working out? I learned that a recliner chair is man's best friend for the first few days. Let Bunny help you where she can. I did find that sleeping in a spare guest room for the first week gave both me and the wife a better night's sleep. I'll only be about 10 minutes away from you the next few weeks as I do my RT thing, so if you need for anything, just give me a call.
All the best.
Roger
Posted 2/7/2010 6:42 PM (GMT 0)
Neal,

I got home Friday after my open procedure and was still having pain management and gas issues, but being in my own home, my own bed and with the family around really helped. My wife knows I'm very independent, but I made sure I involved her by talking to her frequently about my condition and asking her help. As a small example, our bed is kind of high off the floor so getting out presents a problem with abdominal pressure when I try and swing out of bed for a walk - she thought of using a foot stool as an aid and stuck one over by my bed. She also thought of using my computer chair to help relieve my back pain since it adjusts several ways and reclines. Anyways, I just invloved her and she's helping while still running the house. She has a bunch of sick days too, so she can use those while I'm home until my follow upon the 12th. Good luck and stick to a schedule that works for you until it's right to make a change.
P.S. We got about 24" here Neal. I really miss shoveling it though, it's great exercise.......
Posted 2/9/2010 6:02 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Neal,

I hope your recovery progresses smoothly in leaps and bounds. The first night with the Foley bag was definitely a harrowing experience. But rest assured that things will settle into place. My first follow-up with my urologist is this Thursday and I'm hoping to get good news about when I can get the catheter out. Even though I'm getting used to it.... get it out of me!

Norm in NY

age 53
psa 4.15
TRUS w/needle biopsy 11/30/09.
2 of 12 core sites positive.
Highest Gleason score noted in one of the cores was 8.
Abdominal & Pelvic CT & Bone scan negative.
Davinci on Feb. 5th 2010.
Posted 2/9/2010 1:43 PM (GMT 0)
Neal: So glad that you have made it home. I agree with others my recliner was my best frined. I was most comportable in that chair. Good luck on the recovery.

Jeff T
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