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One thing that you can be thankful for is that your husband's diagnosis indicates a very early stage, low grade cancer. I was diagnosed in March with very similar pathology and learned through an extensive research process that it was highly unlikely that PCa was going to kill me (at least not anytime soon) and that any of a number of treatments available today offered close to 100% long term cancer free survival rates.
I would disagree that in your case that surgery is the "gold standard" given the rate at which follow-on radiation is required and the potential side effects of urinary and bowel incontinence, sexual disfunction, and penile atrophy (the shrinkage of the penis after the prostate is removed and the urethera is reconnected). While a good surgeon would likely minimize the potential of urinary difficulties, return of sexual function is more of a hit or miss proposition but surgeons with lots of experience post statistics of "the ability to achieve an erection sufficient for penetration at least once a month" at around the 80% level. If that fits your idea of sexual function at your husband's young age then I would say go for surgery and best of luck to you.
While no option is free of side effects and no option guarantees a "cure" there are other treatments that pose less potential side effects for a man with the stage of cancer you describe in your husband. Among the courses of treatment I researched included proton therapy, XBRT radiation, IMRT radiation, brachytherapy, HDR brachytherapy, cryosurgery, Cyberknife, HIFU, and AS. While all of these might not be available in the UK (I'm assuming you're from the UK because of your use of the words 'whilst' and 'mum' they are certainly available throughout the EU and in the US and I know of many patients who travel here from the UK to seek treatment.
One thing about AS--I almost chose that because it offered the absolute least amount of near term side effects while keeping open the potential for treatment in the future if things progressed. I learned through consultations with several doctors and my own research that the best chance of "curing" the cancer was treating it at the earliest possible stage.
For early stage cancer patients such as your husband, statistics show virtually no difference in 10-year survival for surgery, radiation, or surveillance. All of these options show survival rates into the high 90 percent range. Given that just about any treatment course offers a high liklihood of defeating the cancer, why not investigate those options that pose less risk of side effects.
In my own case, I chose to receive radiation through the Cyberknife procedure and am in treatment now. There is plenty of available information on the internet about this procedure and I understand a CK center was recently installed in the UK and that the Queen cut the ribbon for on opening day.
I'd recommend that besides just investigating surgeons, that you also look at radiologists and others that have excellent survival statistics.
Best of luck to you and your husband as you sort this one out.