Hi All,
Infection is gone. No fever 2 days running. He is feeling when he has to pee and is not soaking through one pad but changes regularly just in case. This is good.
Now, to find a PC specialist Oncologist to give us advice on the next step. HT? Radiation? I am not sitting back and taking this diagnosis. These C cells are way too aggressive to let sit in there for too long. I do NOT want them spreading more.
I have so many questions. Isn't that always the case. The answers bring more questions which yield more answers which lead to more questions?
Why did the doc leave the nerves in if they were "extensively infiltrated on both sides", can you go back in and do more surgery and remove them now? would you want to? can you do radiation if you are not continent? are the side effects from radiation worse than the side effects from HT? Is chemo an option? Will the treatments of either radiation or HT be debilitating by themselves? How long do they take?
As you can see my mind is racing ... but you probably guessed that by now... M is handling this well. There are moments when we can stand still for a few and just breathe deeply and say, "wow, how did all this happen so fast?" and other times you just want to live life to the fullest and enjoy the intimacy you've developed which has nothing to do with sex and just "be" together.
Seeking the answers takes time and direction. I am praying for the direction. And looking in every corner.
Judy