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Posted 1/14/2011 4:29 PM (GMT 0)
This morning after 2 months of abstinence from any sex, with the help of vitimin viagra, my fiance and I, somehow, someway, we were able to have a brief moment of intimacy.  Thats opperating at a 30 t level down from a 735.  I feel its been really hard for her because as much as she tries to understand the deal with ht, it still looks like lack of attraction. I still say lupron is evil, but seems to be keeping the grim reaper at bay.
Posted 1/14/2011 4:32 PM (GMT 0)
As far as attention goes, if you can't perform, a woman always appreciates cuddling, and other forms of non-penis insertion. We tend to think with our ---uh---penis and forget that there's many other ways to show love, affection and attention to our partners. Try some of them, she'll probably be thrilled that you do.
Posted 1/14/2011 4:53 PM (GMT 0)
Cyrus, I agree 100% with Jame's post. Even without a penis, there are many ways to please a woman, and show her the physical side of your love, devotion, and effection toward her.
Posted 1/14/2011 5:07 PM (GMT 0)
cyrus -  good for you man.  i know how hard it is for you too with the desire completely gone.  my wife and i spend more time together and we cuddle more but no sex.  i got a slight reaction from viagra while we were in maui but it felt odd because my mind was not engaged.

my wife participates in a forum for wive's whose husbands have PC.  while she does miss the sex she's grateful that i haven't become distant and emotionally cold like some of the guys she reads about.  everybody involved suffers with this disease.

ed

 

Posted 1/14/2011 5:38 PM (GMT 0)

F8 said...
cyrus - good for you man. i know how hard it is for you too with the desire completely gone. my wife and i spend more time together and we cuddle more but no sex. i got a slight reaction from viagra while we were in maui but it felt odd because my mind was not engaged.


my wife participates in a forum for wive's whose husbands have PC. while she does miss the sex she's grateful that i haven't become distant and emotionally cold like some of the guys she reads about. everybody involved suffers with this disease.



ed

My wife pops in here nearly as much as i do to read the posts as obviously my PC affects her life as well, i wonder if you can let us have the link for the forum site that your wife uses please ??

Many thanks, Bob.
Posted 1/14/2011 5:50 PM (GMT 0)
Bob -- i'll post it later when she gets home.

ed

Posted 1/14/2011 5:59 PM (GMT 0)
Here's a link to some that I have. www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=35&m=1584686
Posted 1/15/2011 12:23 AM (GMT 0)
CYRUS1, MY WIFE AND I HAD A VERY ACTIVE SEX LIFE BEFORE RP TO. SINCE THE RP I DON'T EVEN GET A QUIVER DOWN THERE YET. (RP WAS SEPTEMBER 2010) WE CUDDLED AND STUFF BUT AFTER A WHILE THAT WAS NOT ENOUGH. WE SOLVED THE PROBLEM BY INVESTING IN A "PENILE PROSTHESES" CALLED THE "RIDE-ON"BY "VIXEN CREATIONS"
($79.00) IT WAS A GOOD INVESTMENT. WE HAVE HAD A LOT OF FUN WITH IT. IT WAS GOOD FOR HER AND GOOD FOR MY EGO. SHE SAID IT IS LIKE THE REAL THING AND I FEEL LIKE A WHOLE MAN AGIN. IT IS MADE FOR MEN WITH ED PROBLEMS. CHECK IT OUT.
Posted 1/15/2011 3:04 AM (GMT 0)
Bob -- my wife said she doesn't go to the women's forum anymore because she was the youngest there (41) and it was too depressing.  she doesn't remember the name of the forum but she was also placed on a mailing list called "prostate cancer and intimacy" and receives 2-3 e-mails a day.  unlike the forum which is women only, the majority of posters on the mailing list are men.

she thinks she was automatically put on the mailing list when she joined the women's forum whose name she can't remember.

ed

Posted 1/15/2011 1:31 PM (GMT 0)
f8, my wife would like to know how you access the womens forum? thanks
Posted 1/15/2011 2:12 PM (GMT 0)
jake, here's the link:

www.ladies-prostate-forum.org/ladies/
Posted 1/15/2011 4:19 PM (GMT 0)
www.ladies-prostate-forum.org/ladies/ucp.php?mode=login

This is the site that I use as well as this one. I get the female insight from them, and then I get the male info from you guys. I have the best of both worlds. As you share this site with your wife, know that it is mostly older women (as I am 40) but it is a place to share all the fear, concern, anger of being effected by PC, and none of the women are going to do anything but share their stories and support you - no judgement at all. I think it is a great site. Please share with your significant others.....but only for females.


added links to url to make it clickable

Post Edited By Moderator (James C.) : 1/15/2011 9:23:31 AM (GMT-7)

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