Time to cool it down!

While I agree that the "statement" about HT made even me cringe, it's over and done...lets move on and lets forgive and forget. I came here almost 5 years ago when my John was diagnosed and I was besides myself with worry, fear, anxiety...oh, you guys know what I'm talking about. Lo and behold, there were people here - and some of them still are here - who stretched out a helping hand, calmed my fears, made me laugh, "walked" with me during the journey, and called me "friend." I was one of the first wives here, dealing with a bunch of men that I didn't know from Adam but who never, ever made me feel unwelcome or uneducated. Now we have a bunch of wives, sons and daughters, and other people who love someone diagnosed with PCa...and many here willingly jump in whenever we read that plaintive first post from someone scared to death. We tell newbies that we'll help them get through it...lets turn that same wonderful compassion towards each other regardless of what has gone before. After all, friends shouldn't hold grudges, and "family" should be able to forgive and forget.

sephie, well said, mostly agree with what you just said, but we are only talking about one doctor's opinion. no one said he had the final word on the subject, probably based on his own experiences with his own patients.

david

I have been very reluctant to make any comment about all the comments in assorted recent posts, many of which I have missed due to the time difference.

After all David's worries about whether or not it was going to be worth visiting the doc, I was glad to read David's post that said that he felt that it had after all been worthwhile.
I took on board the fact right from the start that he was reporting what he had been told, but mainly that his situation was as bad as he thought it was and the possible solutions were almost worse. David has one of the worst PCA stories of us guys and he was basically told by the new doc that while there was a faint possibility that something could be done to help him it had a very high risk of him dying in the process.
So come on guys and girls that was surely the point at which HW members should stick to our core activity and step in to try to support David, and not appear to pick a fight with David about one part of one of the comments of a third party.

As ever I thank the mods for their work here.
And I hope that we can all quietly take a deep breath and then continue to try to help each other in the way that has attracted so many of us to be part of HW.

Group hug!

Alf

As someone very new to this forum and someone still trying to decide on treatment, I find the info posted here about 90% helpful and 10% not.  I think it's the 10% part that Tony is talking about.

In truth, I don't know if I'm really here to help me decide what I'm going to do, but to validate the decision that I'm pretty sure I'm going to make.

After reading many of the, let's just say, passionate posts here, I'm starting to think that many people are here for validation, even after their treatment.  That makes total sense to me.  I'm sure everyone wants to feel good about what they've decided.  This is what's important.  There's no point busting someone's balls after the fact.  What good is it going to do.  This is not like a marriage.  There's no divorce if you choose wrong.  Every one of us will have to live with our decision forever...and I think "live" is the most important part.

sadly, I've not been finding this forum to be very supportive lately. I must be on everyone's ignore list.

sigh...

In the shop... I always read your stuff.Looking at your blog now, The pics of la Saint Chappelle are wonderful. I was also there in 2012 (in April). Going through your pics of the day now, great stuff.

I actually wish this forum had a corner where we could share pics and other personal non cancer related stuff.

so we do, who knew? and there is a pic of you and Todd with a nice guitar.

Decisions - so the original biopsy showed no 7? The good news is that you probably have a lot of options to beat this.

What exactly was your AS routine during those three years?