Help with Caregiver

Maybe time for a new care-giver?

A first post. Hmm

What is your relationship to caregiver? Hard to figure out from you post if she is your spouse or a hired hand.

Definitely first post.

The OP Needs an advocate..lto be there when he fires her ***

mel

one thing's for certain,  it has nothing to to do with PC.

ed

 

No.. It has everything to do with prostate cancer! My relationship was what I thought perfect... Boy was I wrong! This is how I'm being treated by my wife! I was the bread winner, cook, lover, maintenance man...ect.. Then the diagnosis... The shock for her was about two weeks.. After that she expected me to "snap out of it"! I had a couple of bad months...now the realization set in and I'm dealing with it! The rant was what my better half has put me thru during the two months since my diagnosis! After 4 years with her she can't even tell me she's done! Instead she has made my life a living hell! Just needed some support! Always read this sight never posted... Just at the end with her and this PC

I'm confused.

Journey, are you the caregiver?

If not, how do you know this additional info?

Mel

sounds like the anti-caregiver

This is really not the place where it will be helpful to you.

Your issues need to be worked on, but I doubt if a public forum is the best place.

Good luck to both of you.

Mel

WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE.

Two first postings.

This really appears to be some personal vendettas.

Moderator: at least keep an eye on this thread!

mEL

All that yammering and not one mention of a PSA result, T-level, or wonky weenie.
I must not be in the right forum. Better log out and log back in again.
J

 This seems odd to me, I am brand new to this, my husband was diagnosed in December 2012 and I just learned of this forum. I am grateful to have others to confide in, but I dont know if I agree with this writing about my feelings to other men to be validated. With everything that my husband and I have been through in the past 6 months, I dont feel the need or desire to leave him so I can "refresh" or to ask for new "boobs" ( especially if he is having problems sexually   SHAME ON YOU!!!!!!). It hasn't taken THAT much out of me.  He really has only needed time to handle his depression and feelings about having an incurable illness and needed me to pick up the slack on a small amount of extra chores, bill paying etc ........ "our journey", you seem a tad selfish if you ask me. I dont know how you could be "burned out" in such a short period of time. I would like to ask, what exactly are you doing when you say you are "CAREGIVING" ?? Its not like he is laid up in a hospital bed in your livingroom or anything, right? Are you Changing Zildjians diapers? Wiping him? Showering him? Feeding him?? Because I am doing those things for my Quadriplegic 22 year old daughter aas well as CARING for her newly diagnosed father. Just because you live in the same home doesnt mean you are a "caregiver". So, can you seriously list what you do for Zildjian? Because this seems like you may be taking this trip because you WANT a vacation. A  vacation without Zildjian.  If thats the case, just say so. Theres nothing wrong with that. I just hate seeing someone manipulate a forum to give her "permission."   And Punching Him EVER, let alone after Prostate surgery is a sign of a clearly unstable person!!! I mean come on!!!!! I'll pray for you both...you need it.

My Husbands Info ......

45 years old - Diagnosed at 44
Robotic Surgery Dec 2012 
complete urinary control
Prostate was small, 34 grams.
Final Gleason score 7 (3+4)
Less than 10% of slides involved tumor
Tumor measured 7 mm in greatest dimension and was located in the right lobe near the apex.
Tumor was confined to prostate.
The apical, basal, pseudocapsular and soft tissue resection margins were free of tumor.
Seminal vesicles were free of tumor.
Right pelvic node - benign fibroadiopse tissue. no lymph node is identified.
Left pelvic node - one small lymph node, negative for tumor (0/1)