Preacherman12 ........
I have many of the same concerns ... and yesterday, along with a blood draw and an Xgeva shot, I sat down with the Practitioner Nurse in my Oncologists office.
I had a list of questions that she addressed both quickly and concisely. They were all about Xtandi ... and I am just completing my 4th week of 160mg of Xtandi daily.
My Oncologists office (of 10 to 12 doctors) has found very good success with Xtandi in, at least, lowering the PSA levels. The problem has been in the side effects. This is my third type of chemo (see below) ... and in a fairly short timeframe, Xtandi has given me more side effects than either of the other two chemo types.
In my Onco's office, their approach is when the side effects become pretty intolerable, they reduce the Xtandi - first, from 4-capsules (160mg) down to 3-capsules (120mg). And as long as the PSA level at least stabilizes, they may even drop the dosage down to 2-capsules (80mg) in order to reduce the side effects.
So far, they have had success with their patients in reducing the dosage to 3-caps leaving the side effects very tolerable - and not having the PSA spike upwards.
As you can see from my background below, I have had very similar meds as your Father ... and I am 70.
Hope this helps!