Still not dry

It is generally accepted that whatever level of incontinence you have when RT starts is "locked in", and perhaps (as was my case), made even worse.

The RT will potentially damage other tissue besides the cancerous, and it damages irritated or scar tissue just as much.

I expect the doctor is trying to do the best job possible in getting him continent. Is he going to any sort of physical therapy for incontinence? My hospital assigned a physical therapist who worked with me on kegels and exercises.

I had my surgery late in October, was totally incontinent for about three months, got better very slowly, then started RT in late March the next year. At that point I was down to one or two pads a day, a few months after RT I was back to two and three a day.

A physical therapist will work with how to do kegel exercises, and talk as well about general exercise, and what foods / drinks / medications can cause bladder irritation (and therefore increase incontinence). Not all surgeons believe in kegels. Some here will say they were unneeded or had no benefit. I found them, on balance with a daily walking plan, to help, and my surgeon was of the school that believes that they are sometimes helpful, enough so that they are not wasted effort.

If your surgeon does not think they are useful, try going through your GP to get a referral (if you have to have one).

Has there been a discussion of food & drink? My uro got to that very quickly, and over time I've had to dismiss anything carbonated, and acidic drinks such as orange juice. A beer after 5pm is a guarantee of washing the sheets at 3am for me.