TC,
Welcome, and the usual - sorry you have to be here.
Lots of wonderful people on the forum and very good information. At the end of the day, there won't be a right or wrong answer - just the answer that you find fits you best. Each of us came to our own decisions in a variety of ways, I will share my journey to add what ever value I can to you process.
I was slightly younger than you when diagnosed, and originally told by my doctors that I had a G6 with just one core out of twelve showing cancer. They said it was contained in my prostate and that Active Surveillance, or Radiation or Surgery were all options.
I didn't want to wait, no AS for me. I have an older brother who had G6 and treated it with radiation, successfully. My doctors told me that Radiation first, then surgery if needed was sometimes difficult. The radiation turns everything into more goo (very official medical terminology). So I opted for surgery, with radiation as a follow up if need.
I think that decision saved my life.
Once in the operating room with the robot in place, the doctor discovered why my biopsy was only positive in 1 of 12 cores. My cancer had moved into my bladder and possibly beyond. He set about to remove the tumors, but ultimately was unable to get all of it - leaving me with some positive margins in what was left of my bladder.
Sometimes, I think, they just have to get in there to see what is really going on.
Side effects - yes and no. I am still recovering my erectile function. I take pills and they work more or less, but not sufficient to penetrate yet. I am continent and wear a small shield to guard against leaks when I sneeze.
I'm glad I did what I did. Surgery worked for me, and as I said, radiation worked for my brother.
So like I said, no right or wrong, just the answer that you will find that works for you.
Take care TC, we are all here for you.
Pat