Hi Scaldeagle,
Sounds like you do a good bit of travelling, I would recommend you invest in some reading material about PC to pass the time while you travel given your family history with the disease. I am partial to Dr. Patrick Walsh's Guide to Surviving Prostate Cancer. It is a bit dated (2007) and there are several other good books and you can search this forum for other forum member's recommendations as well. Please do not misinterpret me, I have no idea if you have PC or not, but I think you should consider to continue educating yourself about this disease (and sounds like some family members need it too). You can also check out the top link in this forum for newly diagnosed, lots of good links there too for education.
For what it is worth, I would be anxious too, given the merry go round you have been on with your PSA scores and funny doctors. I can say almost certainly that a TURP procedure is not a good recommendation for PC, hard to believe that is what the doctor recommended.
Good luck.