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Posted 4/8/2015 3:22 PM (GMT 0)
Susan,so sorry, but I know he's no longer in pain and fatigued. My husband was put on hospice this past Friday and I feel your pain. I watch as he deteriorates daily, he's just a hollow frame of the man he once was. That is the part that is so hurtful, watching and waiting. I can't remember all of the particulars about how long you two have been together, my husband and I have known each other over 52 years and married for 51 of those years, so there is a lot of history there. I am so glad that Bob was able to talk with you and express his emotions of appreciation and love to you, that helps "closure" so much, oh it doesn't take the hurt, pain, or lose, but it gives you some comfort, I know it would me. I am so glad that yo are able to fill your time with work, I am sure that will help you through some of those "lonely" times.......I'm sorry but I seem to be at a lose for more words of condolence, but I don't ever think there are enough words that will ever fill up "that hole in your heart"....

I would like to communicate with you on a more personal bases if you agree, please feel free to contact me via my e-mail address.

Peace to you, I know Bob is at peace now!

sal
Posted 4/8/2015 3:28 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry to see this. It sounds like Bob was a very lucky person to have you for a partner.
Posted 4/8/2015 3:40 PM (GMT 0)
Susan, I am so sorry for your loss. My family and I are wishing you all the best. Thank you for your support of Bob. He was lucky to have you.
Posted 4/8/2015 3:48 PM (GMT 0)
Susan,

My condolences on your loss of Bob. May the rich memories of your shared lives help console you in your grief and sustain you in the years ahead.

Tim
Posted 4/8/2015 4:46 PM (GMT 0)
Susan,
so sorry to hear your sad news, Bob was lucky to have you share his life and to help him battle the illness. I do hope you have family and friends to help you through this sad time.

Theresa
Posted 4/8/2015 6:51 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry to hear this, Susan. How lucky he was to have had you on his side throughout.

- Allen
Posted 4/8/2015 7:33 PM (GMT 0)
 Susan,  I'm so sorry to hear this news.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  Every man should be so lucky as to have someone as strong as you by thier side.  Glad he got the chance to tell you.

Mike

Posted 4/8/2015 8:40 PM (GMT 0)
you are an angel Susan. I'm sorry for your loss.

ed
Posted 4/8/2015 8:44 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for your loss, Susan. Will be thinking of you in the days ahead. Sue
Posted 4/8/2015 8:45 PM (GMT 0)
Dear Susan,

I am so very sorry, Susan. I'm just beginning this journey with my husband, but you are already a role model for me of being a loving and supportive partner.

Sending you thoughts of peace and gentle healing,

Mary
Posted 4/8/2015 9:12 PM (GMT 0)
To echo an earlier comment, He "fought the good fight, he finished the course." And, those who came before us, each of us shows the way to keep fighting. I always consider that if we keep fighting it, the disease never wins. We might lose, but we are not defeated.

Thanks for sharing Bob with us.
Posted 4/8/2015 9:30 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Susan,
My sympathies for your loss. I still visit here but don't or can't have anything of value to say usually but to you if you need someone who is walking this path, I am here. You can email me - I have learned a lot but most of all you are beginning a journey that is yours alone.
Susan
Posted 4/9/2015 12:15 AM (GMT 0)
Godspeed Bob,Susan i hope and pray that everyone has someone in their life that cares for them as you did for Bob.
Posted 4/9/2015 12:19 AM (GMT 0)
I am so very sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers. ~Miki~
Posted 4/9/2015 12:52 AM (GMT 0)
Susan,
So sorry to hear this news. Thinking of you.
Beth
Posted 4/9/2015 1:11 AM (GMT 0)
Susan, I'm very sorry about your loss. It is never easy to lose someone you love and care for. I hope you can find the strength to continue to support those of us who are still fighting this disease.
Posted 4/9/2015 6:25 AM (GMT 0)
Susan,
You're news just tears at my heart. Been thinking about you all day and hoping you can find some healing in writing about your experience. I hope you share your story with us when it's complete. I get so much support visiting caregivers corner, and would love to read what you have written from your experience. My email is in my profile.
Beth
Posted 4/9/2015 6:37 AM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry for your loss and may you find comfort in knowing you gave him your all in a time that counted the most.
Posted 4/9/2015 9:41 AM (GMT 0)
I am so very sorry Susan. I see so much courage and dedication in the caregivers on this forum.
Posted 4/10/2015 1:18 AM (GMT 0)
Susan, I can't say anything that hasn't already been said above. It saddens me to hear Bob has passed. I hope you take some time for yourself right now, as its not easy being the one left behind either.

Know my thoughts and prayers are with you, and I hope you are finding some peace as well. I pray I have half as much courage as you do!

Krissy
Posted 4/10/2015 3:06 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all for your kind words and support. I am at peace with the fact that he is out of pain. The last two weeks have been very rough. I knew by last Friday that he was slipping away. This is about all I can say right now

Thank You,

Susan (radsgrrl22)

Radmoon22 aka Robert Davis
67 years old
Posted 4/10/2015 3:21 PM (GMT 0)
Remain strong... as He passed on... to you…. and in a way that will strengthen you in ways you will never understand but will surely always…always know. I grieve with and for you. Your bond will never be stronger…Believe This...
Posted 4/10/2015 3:55 PM (GMT 0)
Susan
I am very sorry for your loss,we are a big family,and when we lose one we are all hurt.
Posted 4/15/2015 12:20 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much for your kind words. Mostly just putting one foot in front of the other.

I found this poem that Bob wrote to me a while back.

In my dreams, you share my hammock.
Under a dark and tropical sky.
To see the moonlight in your eyes, the stars in your silken hair.
The gentle breezes give us rhythm, as we wear each other's skin.

Susan- radsgrrl22
Posted 4/15/2015 2:29 AM (GMT 0)
I know one when I see one, Susan,... that is a beautiful poem... framed by his eternal love for you. The beauty of it is... that you realize that...
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