Glenn,
What Jordan said. He and Gary are in similar situations, with Gary several years ahead, but the race we are all in, I think, is to try to help others not ever get to stage 4 by early detection and good tx, and to support others who are in the same boat. How this beast affects us varies from one to another, but it's the same beast.
Gary and I often talk about
how people think of him as "that guy"; as in, "I wouldn't want to be that guy". Its funny though, that there are so many opportunities for him to say "I sure wouldn't want to be that guy!"
No one wants to be at this table, no one deserves it, but it sure helps that we are here together!
If there is someone going this alone, I wouldn't want to be that guy!
Beth