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Posted 5/19/2016 5:07 PM (GMT 0)
I'm after biopsy few weeks. DX minimal cancer :) All rather good. Have some pains and symptoms like urine dribbling. Probably from some other things going into my prostate. Waiting for next consultation to clear that out. Educating. Waiting. Breathing.

How to fight with stress? Any advice guys?

Post Edited (biologiclondon) : 5/19/2016 5:27:57 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 5/19/2016 5:45 PM (GMT 0)
Well, not to sound corny, but having unhealthy stress or not is your choice. Rationalize why you shouldn't stress about things you can't control, and let the stress float away.
Posted 5/19/2016 6:17 PM (GMT 0)
What are the things that you do that bring you joy. I go running with my dogs to deal with stress. Some people read books. I just know that I have to be doing something physical to cope better.
Michael
Posted 5/19/2016 8:02 PM (GMT 0)
Buy the book...

"Invasion of the Prostate Snatchers" by Ralph Blum and Mark Scholz, MD.

It'll slow you down some bio. (in more ways than one).

If you have someone to talk to...go. If not...find someone. You can email me.

You gotta get a grip bio. Your life is not in danger. They've uncovered the smallest amount of the slowest growing cancer known to man (Except maybe basil skin cancer). It's hardly even measurable in your biopsy.

We understand that you're scared they missed some. But you've got a clean MRI and an almost clean biopsy report.

You can tell you're anxious by nature just from the way you've been paying attention to your "symptoms".

This ain't that. Relax man.
Posted 5/19/2016 8:06 PM (GMT 0)
My thought is stress is pretty unavoidable, just a part of life. I've found if I can get to the bottom of the top few causes of the stress that I am coping with at the time that moving forward with a plan helps it to release. Just as moving forward with getting info on my cancer diagnosis helped and ultimately coming to a treatment decision helped to really release a lot of the stress related to that. Having treatment and moving forward now has been just mildly stressful because I accept that I am pretty powerless at this time to affect any outcome that may be in my future with this disease. All the work is done so I don't dwell on it. Cancer free until someone or some test tells me I'm not. I don't expect to be stress free until I'm dead, life has a way of keeping the stress coming. I've also learned to deal with it and not try too hard to avoid it because it ain't going nowhere until it's dealt with. And trust me when I was younger I was a master at the avoiding part.

But as Michael said exercise and hobbies and activities that keep you in the moment is a great way to give the mind and body a much needed break from our everyday stresses....Jim
Posted 5/19/2016 8:09 PM (GMT 0)
Amen on the book, read Invasion of the Prostate Snatchers.

You don't have a diagnosis.
Xanax!
Posted 5/19/2016 8:24 PM (GMT 0)
One of the best advice I heard related to stress is to accept that "life is difficult". It may seem counter intuitive but once one accepts that life is difficult, life becomes easier. It is those who expect that "life shouldn't be difficult" that life becomes more difficult than it has to be.
Posted 5/19/2016 9:21 PM (GMT 0)
Biologic -
Stress can kill you, literally. Stress you are going through anticipating a biopsy result, is pretty normal though, and its ok to stress, as long as its not part of a longer term or bigger, pattern, in which case you really should address it.

That was the case with me. I did biofeedback training, which helped me relax with breathing techniques. Didnt get me to where i need to be, but it is helping. Also, a little bit of Zoloft helps. And exercise, as was mentioned, is a great stress reliever. Think about that stuff.
I hope your biopsy ccomes back negative. But if it doesn't you will need stress relief techniques, for a while.
Lets hope that does not happen, but even if it does, likely it will be highly treatable and hopefully early enough to be curable.

I was confused by your comment "why parents hate their children". If thats part of the stress equation for you, thats a whole nother issue. I hope thats not the case.
Posted 5/19/2016 9:24 PM (GMT 0)
I am taking a carving class. It completely takes my mind off my woes and lets me create something. worth a try if you are so inclined
Posted 5/19/2016 10:57 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Biologiclondon,

Best advice, from what you have posted ... keep busy, stay involved, keep your mind focused on the world around you ...

Simple advice, brother-to-brother --- I would recommend you invest some time, talent, and energy into some VOLUNTEER WORK --- it will lift your spirits and give you a new focus and help you shine a light on this world we live in ...

So --- serve some meals at a homeless shelter, help raise money for a children's orphanage, collect some toys for a children's hospital, volunteer at a blood bank donation center, help clean up a neighborhood park, help at a local care center with elderly residents, help with a church mission project, volunteer at an animal rescue shelter, put away books at your local library, and the list goes on and on ... depending on YOUR talents, interests, and passions.

Spend some time and make a lasting difference ... you'll get your mind off your own worries if you start helping others ... give it a try ... give it a chance ...

Last of all ... nothing better than an evening walk at sunset to take away the stress of the day ... take a walk through the park ... go hiking through the woods .... anything outside in the natural world ... easy recipe for stress relief ...

Sent with my best,

Iowa State University ~ CYCLONE FAN
Posted 5/19/2016 11:15 PM (GMT 0)
I read science books. The universe is about 14 billion years old. The earth is around 4 billion, so it's hard to get upset. You feel grateful for just being here. I watch at least one video off the Curiosity Channel on topics from Quantum Mechanics to DNA. They put everything into perspective.
Posted 5/19/2016 11:37 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks guys. Reading forum calms me down:) Great advices with book, focusing on others, volunteer works, science. Definitely need some human connection. So will be looking for some volunteering. Compose some music maybe. And above that I have full hands with raising my 2 years old daughter:)
Posted 5/20/2016 1:27 AM (GMT 0)
Human connection. That's what's lacking in my life as well bio. "Volunteer work"---"UGH" was always my reaction. "I know I'm bad off but THAT'S not gonna help". Was my thinking. So...I served a few meals down at the homeless shelter. And i was (semi) right. Although it DOES WORK, I found I need still more connection.

I just got home from the community little league baseball park. And they need volunteers too. And I like baseball, kids and ball parks more than the soup kitchen. I had to make a call to my doctor after hours from the ball park. Being there put that call (and more importantly, the reason behind it) in persective for me. It made the call secondary to what I was doing. You (we) have to get this stuff in the rear seat.
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