That's a lot of complications to deal with. Let me take a stab at some comments for you to consider.
Casodex:
Casodex is often started just before Lupron to prevent a "testosterone flare," but after a couple of weeks that is no longer necessary. Most guys do just fine with Lupron alone. You can try getting rid of it (gynecomastia is a very common SE) and see what happens - if the PSA increases, you can always go back on it - take with 10 mg tamoxifen to prevent gynecomastia.
Cryotherapy:
U of Colorado does a lot of cryo, so it's no surprise they're recommending it. However, whole gland cryo (while it's getting better) is known for lots of complications and poor cure rates. As you can see in the following, the 5-year recurrence-free survival among high-risk men was only 59%. 10% suffered lasting incontinence and 83% were left impotent. 3% required surgical intervention for urinary retention (many more required catheterization) and 1% suffered rectourethral fistulae.
Primary Cryotherapy for High-Grade Clinically Localized Prostate Cancer: Oncologic and Functional Outcomes from the COLD RegistryPotentially curative therapy:
I imagine surgery with ePLND is out of the question because of risk of infection. Ideally, you would have a combination of external beam and brachytherapy boost to the prostate. That has the highest cure rate for high risk men. You should discuss this with a very experienced brachytherapist who would consult with your nephrologist. This kind of combination therapy carries the risk of urinary retention, which may be a concern for your kidneys. Next best would be external beam monotherapy - IMRT, most likely. SBRT may be possible, but I don't know if they would treat a high risk patient (it is experimental for high risk). With any kind of radiation therapy, I'm sure that pinpoint accuracy will be absolutely critical to minimize incidental dose to the ureters.
At U of Colorado, you have Brian Kavanagh who is a very highly respected radiation oncologist. His would be the first opinion I would recommend you seek out. I've also heard patients praise Lee McNeely for SBRT - he may be worth talking to also.
Non-curative therapy:
Another option is to manage the disease. Hormone therapy seems to be working quite well for you, which augers well for long term management. Oddly enough, the corticosteroids you are taking to prevent kidney rejection may actually be helpful in controlling the PC, at least for some time. When Lupron alone is not enough, there are several second-line hormonal therapies, and possibly more by the time you're ready for them.
/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4023359/