just updating this thread as it was supposed to be for information to anyone whose in a similar situation.
in my dad's case, there was a singular spine met (first detected in mid-february, but we weren't sent to the onc for another scan until late march) so the medical oncologist at one of the best cancer centres here in toronto decided a wait and watch approach would be best, instead of starting him on chemo. we felt very uneasy about
this, as we had done tons of research and knew what could happen. we also knew traditional scans won't pick this up as effectively as a PET scan, and tried to push for that but to no avail. the MO was convinced my dad's cancer was "middle of the spectrum" and that the normal scans would be fine...that we could pick it up early enough to treat. we pushed as much as possible, sent tons of studies and articles but nothing.
the full scan on march 29th showed only one spine met. then the next scan on may 4th - an MRI of the specific area on the spine where the met was - showed 2 lung nodules: one was tiny, the other was 9mm. my dad had planned an out-of province trip for may 10th-13th and asked the doctor if there was anything on the latest scan that was concering and if so, he would cancel the trip and come in for an appointment ASAP. the MO said there were a couple of issues, but "nothing to worry about
, go on the trip and we'll talk when you get back". the appointment was given for a week after my dad returned - on may 19th.
at this may 19th appointment the MO said he was confident that the lung nodules were cancer and that the liver enzymes had gone up, making him think the liver may also have mets. more scans were ordered for the next week - an MRI of the entire spine on may 23rd and chest, pelvis, abdomen on the 25th. the spine MRI showed small mets on every single vertabrae of the spine. the chest, abdomen & pelvis scan showed innumerable mets everywhere - too many to count. it was like a "shower", to use the MO's words. instead of one huge mass, there were numerous tiny ones that sometimes looked like on huge mass. the liver was so full it had a marbled appearance.
at this point my dad asked for immediate chemo. the MO said that wasn't an option and that he would discuss options with my dad in another week. by now my dad was feeling awful - very ill, fatigued and nauseous. he even threw up. my mom then took him to emergency. a panel of MOs there from the cancer centre decided to try chemo. he was admitted to the cancer centre hospital and given etoposide and cisplatin.
initially, things looked positive. the pain all but stopped (he didn't need painkillers for 22.5 hours at one point, which was a huge change), liver enzymes were going down and generally he seemed to be doing better. they were planning on sending him home but he took a sudden bad turn and passed away in hospital on june 17th (he had been admitted may 26th after spending a night in emergency on the 25th)
it has been the most devastating thing we've dealt with. such an energetic, optimistic, positive man who was full of life all the time, and adored life. taken so quickly. when he first got the cancer in 2010 he changed his entire lifestyle - super healthy diet, stopped drinking, exercised so much. he was in the best shape he'd been in in years and felt so good and healthy. but somehow the cancer still came back and in such a deadly format. i don't understand
he deserved so much better than this.
if you or your loved one are dealing with this diagnosis i'd say get 2nd and 3rd opinions and act fast. we brought him to this cancer centre thinking it was the best but we ended up with an inexperienced MO (we did ask him if he'd dealt with this type before and he said he had...his colleague also assured us he'd dealt with it) and it cost us. we were in a good position with the one met and it hadn't gone to the organs yet and i keep thinking about
what could've been if they'd started chemo back in march/april when things were still looking good on scans. also, ask for a PET scan.
we had got an appointment at upsalla university in sweden who do PRRT which this type of cancer can respond to. they're worth contacting. unfortunately my dad passed before we could get him there. university of heidelberg also does treatment but i didn't have any luck with contacting them as they never answered back.
i will post some more info later once i'm a little less drained.
once again, thank you to those who have helped with advice on here. tall allen, your first post with the link to the blog is one i printed out and also printed out individual articles from to give to the medical oncologist immediately after this diagnosis. it also helped as a jumping off point for other research. but at the time, he didn't take any of this info too seriously because he didn't think this cancer was as aggressive as it turned out to be. his answers to everything were always "i don't think we need to concern ourselves with this just yet" and "we don't need to think about
this at this stage" etc.
we never did find out the characteristics of the cancer and whether it was rich in somatostatin receptors or any other type, despite our repeated attempts to get the doctor to help us on that front. after the refusals, we found out through this forum that it can be done privately and just as we were about
to send it off, the oncologist said if we waited a couple of days he could get it done and that it would probably be quicker. but my dad only lived a couple more days after that.
anyway, i am so sorry to anyone dealing with this. don't lose all hope - this is the worst i've seen from everything i've read and it was also the worse the MO had seen. hopefully yours will be less awful.