Yarbo3-
I know this has been a very difficult decision, and a greatly admire your questioning attitude. I am also relieved that your prostate is no longer at issue - congratulations on that.
The language here gets in the way of understanding this issue. "Oligometastatic disease" may be used to refer to two different situations:
(1) presence of 3 or fewer metastases when the prostate is still present
(2) presence of 3 or fewer metastases when the prostate has been taken out of the picture with surgery or radiation.
And to complicate it still further, there are subtypes for both - when the metastases are only in the pelvic lymph nodes (N1), but not distant (M0). Other subtypes are N1M1 (both local and distant mets), and N0M1 (distant only).
Situation 1 may be treated by "debulking" of the prostate - the mothership of most of the metastases. Situation 2 may be treated with "metastasis-directed therapy" (e.g., ePLND only, LN radiation, bone met ablation, etc.)
So whereas you are in situation (2) with N1, the quote Karnes gave you is for situation (1) with M1 subtype - a very different situation. The evidence for eliminating the prostate (while scant) is more compelling than the evidence for metastasis-directed therapy.
The other impediment to understanding the issues is the confusion caused by the term "local control." There is no question that metastasis-directed therapy provides excellent local control - when those metastases that are eliminated by ePLND or nodal radiation are removed, they are removed for good. 90+% local control is not uncommon. The question is - does "local control" serve any purpose when there are thousands cancer cells in systemic circulation. In other words, does local control affect survival at all? That is the question that has no answer - nothing Karnes told you or can tell you addresses that question because it can only be answered with a prospective randomized clinical trial. That has not happened yet. The only evidence we have are some retrospective matched-case analyses, and they arrive at mixed conclusions. You can read about
them here:
Unwarranted conclusions about oligometastatic treatmentThis is a tremendously difficult decision because there is no clear benefit and there are distinct risks from ePLND. It is those risks I would be most focussed on - what is Karnes record with regard to lymphoceles and lymphedema? What is the RO's record for late-term bowel toxicity?
Perhaps it may help to know that survival is much longer among men whose metastases are discovered in the lymph nodes rather than the bones. New LN mets are slow to arise in the beginning (this is what complicates the issue of whether there is any treatment benefit). Also, survival has been lengthened by new systemic therapies. Whether you decide to treat locally or not, I think the new data on early use of systemic treatment with Zytiga is worth your consideration.