Scott,
You need to be your own advocate. Any doctor that won't give you a referral or who takes offense because you want a second opinion, should be fired. Get rid of that guy. A friend of mine was my urologist. He said surgery right away. I said I was going to the best in the area. I really don't care that he took offense. It's my life and I wasn't going to have some urologist carve me up when radiation was called for in my case. i didn't need a referral. I contacted MSKCC directly and they got me set up to see surgical and radiation oncologists. Both agreed radiation was the treatment plan for me. Your insurance may require one, so find a urologist in your plan and get a referral from them. Or call your insurance company and try to get them to let you see another doctor.
Post where you live and some of your details. You can get more info on here with details posted.
But first, fire that "doctor"
Post Edited (Dogdays) : 1/10/2018 6:23:35 PM (GMT-7)