An38 said...
Does my thinking seem sound given everything you know about active surveillance?
An,
First, looks like from your husband's profile, he has been doing well with his PCa and has low uPSA since around 2013. That's great!
Your thinking on your brain tumor seems pretty good to me. One thing you didn't directly address, but is important, would be the possible side effects of surgery in the frontal lobe. You have a long time to live, but that would also mean you would have a long time to live with any surgery side-effects. I'm sure you and your surgeon have (or will) talked this through.
Not sure you will run across many people here that can help much, unless they have incidentally been exposed to a friend or family member with a situation like yours, since this is mostly all PCa related, with some "side-excursions".
One thing I can offer is that a family member suffered about
a decade, and later died, from progressive FTD (frontal temporal disease). The mental, emotional and behavioral changes, esp. in the last few years of life, were marked. Not to say you will encounter these -- your tumor seems small and slow-growing? But, over time, getting paired up with a good neurologist might be a good idea. They can help by administering certain standard tests to assess normal brain function with regards to physical and behavioral stability. There are also some meds, like Namenda, that have helped some. A neurologist will know.
Of the things you mentioned, "language, judgement, personality, behaviour
", all were affected for my relative, except language changes came only near the end. Since you are concerned about
work performance in a high-level position, it will be helpful to identify and seek help of some/a few trusted associates that can help you become aware of any changes from your current "baseline" mental/behavior/work performance. Hopefully, these would be impartial people who, btw, would not benefit if your climb up the corporate ladder slowed down. One hallmark of FTD problems is that the patient cannot self-identify changes, and may be resistant or just unable to absorb advice/input from others. It is an awfully frustrating disease. Again, you may never encounter this -- I am wishing you best of luck and health and that everything just stays stable for you, as it could very well do so.
So sorry you have to deal with this. Below are some links I found that *may* be of help, but, again, this is not really the focus of this Healingwell board, so not sure if anyone here will know which are the best links to help you. You probably have already seen some of these, but here they are anyway:
https://braintumor.org/brain-tumor-information/finding-support-coping/https://braintumor.org/take-action/brain-tumor-support-conversations/https://www.smartpatients.com/forums/brain-tumorhttps://www.inspire.com/groups/american-brain-tumor-association/https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/brain-cancerhttps://csn.cancer.org/forum/165Robert