Hello
I am doing some back ground reading after just joining and thought a comment on this subject here might be OK.
We had made some progress on the physical side of our lives before radiation. We decided to include all options and see what worked now. Well radiation set me back months. We found ways to tell the other how much we loved. Climaxes were present for both but full intercourse was a ways in the future. I was clean, had soft skin and smelled good but no penetration. We used all the samples and bought a few more but about a 1 1/2 years goes by with little change.
A birthday pool party for a Grandson gets us all together, 20-30 people. My daughter in law is of Cuban heritege. She was sisters. One of those sisters is a knockout and she has a new bikini. Waterpolo in the pool and I'm sitting in the cabana with ice tea watching that bikini. My goodness it starts. It grows, it bulges. it protrudes and felt wonderful but embarrasing. I mean "HELLO BUDDY, WELCOME BACK. WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN SO LONG" I quickly grabbed a towel and went to the bathroom. It went down just as quick as it came up, darned.
After we drove away hours later, my wife says "Was that what I think it was?" "YES." "Lets go invite him back, I want to see him again."
During those next months he accepted our invitations once in a while and showed up. Each appearance was a surprise because we could never quite figure out how to phrase the invitation.
It was also during that time some of the pressure or selfishness began to ease and I lightened up. I was alive after all. I decided to thank those who had helped me.
Jim