I am battling advanced PC with my dad...and have been for right at two years now. He is 62 years old. He has had lymph node removal(was supposed to be prostate removal, but had spread when they opened him to do surgery so they took the lymph nodes instead.), an orchiotomy, 7 months of taxotare chemo with DN101-a clinical study, and now...he is doing Casodex for about 2 months now.
We too were given mixed reviews on radiation. It was explained to me that PC is a "whole body disease"-at least once it has spread. Radiation is for "point specific" areas...like if the cancer is only in the radiation bed. They said to radiate my dad's areas of spread-at that time was pelvic..it would be dangerous to his surrounding areas-could damage organs.
I just keep researching...trying to find new things that work..or are in the works. I recently heard a new drug called Satraplatin is in the works for getting tested for FDA approval. It is a drug that works when hormones have failed and shows promise for reversing Hormone Refractory patients. That sounds very promising. My theory is to buy as much time as we can by finding things that work for at least a while..and pray like crazy that something will come along that actually "cures".
The Casodex so far is working on my dad..and he has had no side effects. His PSA at last check was 0.6..and we go back to MD Anderson in Nov. We recently started at this location about 2 months ago...moving over from Cancer Centers of America. His scans are all clean with the exception of a suspicous spot in his bones that was very small -that we are watching.
I know that like with my precious daddy...if only LOVE could cure him...he'd be all better by now :) I love him so much...it frightens me to think of even losing him. It sounds like you love your hubby as much so I truly understand. You'll be in my prayers. Hang in there!