Hi Gerbe Et Al,
Interesting query. Originally I told no one of my diagnosis and did not intend to. The doctor had a positive DRE and high PSA early. I waited until after the biopsy and then told my sister. At the time I was uncertain as to the treatment and the location of the treatment. I told my sister with the anticipation that I might need some assistance post operatively if that was the choice. My sister "mentioned" it to my brother and my brother "mentioned" it to my other sisters and you get the picture. Like the old saying... two can keep a secret if one is dead. I was concerned that it would get to my daughter so I told her before I was ready but I toned it down for her.
I did tell a close friend as well here at home. I retired recently and my former boss asked if I would help on a project and I wound up telling him "no" as I was in the midst of figuring out what to do. I felt he deserved to know why so I told him. He asked if he could let my former associates know. After some time I said yes. I was humbled and surprised by the outpouring of genuine concern for my health and well wishes by everyone. I also found out that a colleauge had battled PCa as well.
What resulted from widening the number of people who knew of my situation was a ten fold increase in my resources for investigating the disease, leads on doctors, and treatment options. I even got a consultation gratis with the head of Oncology at a treatment center through the help and connections of my ex wife. In the end it was a good thing as I have received a good deal of support.
Gerbe, good luck with your surgery and hopes for a rapid and complete recovery.
Don