She Fought a Good Fight

My 47 year old boss lost her fight with breast cancer this weekend. She had gone into remission twice for a few months a piece but the third round got worse when it spread outside her breasts.

It was a tough fight too. She had every complication and bad reaction to treatment a person could have. Her husband and I had several conversations and agreed we couldn't have dealt with all the pain and discompfort like she did.

She went to MD Anderson in Houston two weeks ago. The first couple reports back were really good. We thought for sure she’d have a chance. But, when they found it had spread to her liver – they sent her home. Two days later she was gone.

Rest in peace Kristi.

The kind words are very much appreciated.

Thank you.

Steve n Dallas said...

My 47 year old boss lost her fight with breast cancer this weekend...We thought for sure she’d have a chance. But, when they found it had spread to her liver – they sent her home. Two days later she was gone. Rest in peace Kristi.

I am so sorry. My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer in August of 2003; surgery, radiation, four+ years daily oral chemo; November 30, 2007, the cancer spread suddenly and viciously to her liver, interveinous chemo every Monday, weeks in and out of the hospital until October 21, 2008, diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer of the brain...October 22, 2008, surgery and October 23, I lost my wife of 31 years. She was 6 days away from her 61st birthday. When she went into surgery to remove the malignant tumor on her brain, all she asked the surgeon was, "Will I be able to keep my memories?" Alot of who I am died with her. My daughters are both adults and they miss their mom.

Sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was a tough woman. I don't know if I could of gone thru what she did.

My mother has had cancer 4 times in her life and has beaten it all 4 times. Breast cancer and colon cancer in the last 5 years, she is 85. Yes I think the women are tougher than alot of us guys.

Steve,

I'm sorry for your loss. My wife went through the same process and passed away on October 2, 2007.  WE gfought the cancer for 7 years, but only dealt with the brain tumor for a year.  But, I must say that we really lost her when the cancer spread to the brain.  It was an inoperable tumor but, I'm afraid that the operation would not have changed things, much.  She was 57 years old when she passed but, she will always be the love of my life and I was bless to have the time with her that I did.

TSFFZ

TSFFZ said... Steve, I'm sorry for your loss. My wife went through the same process and passed away on October 2, 2007... She was 57 years old when she passed but, she will always be the love of my life and I was bless to have the time with her that I did.  TSFFZ

You know, it's strange to hear people say to me, "Steve, there's alot of guys who would have abandoned ship when their wives became so ill." I'm quite sure it seems unfathomable to you, as well, that someone, after years of marriage, would abandon a loved spouse during such a critical time. My wife and I were very different, yet she was an integral part of me; a part that's missing. In our sorrow and terrible loneliness, you and I both have to commit ourselves to getting on with life; to live the happy and productive lives that our wives would have wanted for us.

Not long ago, perhaps, a few weeks, I read an obituary for a fellow with whom I used to chat, while our wives had their weekly chemo infusions. Both of our wives passed away within a couple of weeks of each other. His obituary read that "He died of a broken heart, following the death of his wife." I refuse to allow that to happen to me and I pray that you will take the same stance. My children deserve to have the old man around for awhile and, frankly, there are still alot of things I'd like to do.