How long to wait for Cialis

My husband had open prostatecomy 8/24/09. The catheter and staples removed 9/3/09. From what I have read the the sooner treatment for ED is started the more likely success. But his dr said 6 weeks, is this too long to wait? We are willing to try once he is feeling up to it and his bladder is under a little control at this point pretty much no contol. We both know that it probaly won't be sussessful but what the heck.lso I have read that things like sitting to urinate and light pushing as if he were to have a bowel movement would help. Has any one tried this and does it help?

Another thought we could also try having sex in the shower and that way neither of us would know the difference.

Most guys experience here with their docs and ED is that they start the post surgery treatment quickly. The usual is to start on some type of the big 3 ED pills, as soon as the catheter is removed. My doc says Viagra or Levetra 3 times a week, 50mg of the first and 10 or 20 mg of the second. You know of course that the use of the pills don't guarantee an erection, but is used for the purpose of helping with blood flow into the pelvic and penile areas. This does mean no sex, until the doc says it's ok, usually at the 4 to 6 week level. At the six week level, most will start using the penis pump, to help with tissue recovery and stretching. The pump helps expand the penile tissue, helps infuse blood into the penis, spread the cavities and stretch the whole thing. Used daily, even twice daily, a good penis pump will go a long way in helping to maintain good penile health until the penis becomes functional again, with natural or otherwise erections. If there isn't any usable response within 3 months, with pills to help it along, most will go to injections. Injections are usually painless, believe it or not, and will really help the penis to regain its length, girth, and infusion of fresh blood into it. Plus, there's the positive psychological boost gained by having a normal erection when looking down, a big plus for a guy. Some studies say that injections will provide the fastest method of regrowing or regaining natural erection function, for long term erectile disfunction guys post surgery.

Now, a word of caution. When the doc says sex is ok, there may be problems in paradise. He may be one of the fortunate ones who recover function quickly, he may have to reply on pills, or even injections. Approach the first time as a learning experience. It may be successful, or a failure. There may be urination during sex issues, there may be length and firmness issues, there may be deflating during the act issues. The point is, anything can happen, so don't be disappointed, either of you, if it doesn't go right. There's plenty of time to learn what works now, and there's a couple of things to remember. First: he will learn that a man does not need an erection to have a climax. Second, women don't have to have an erect penis available to have a climax. You both may have to alter your expectations from what you have spent a lifetime of being comfortable with, but it can also be a rewarding and fulfilling time to relearn, experiment with what works, and you just might find that you have grown closer than before, with a much more rich sex life than you ever expected. It may take some adventurous sessions, with some experimentation and adjustments, but it just might end up being something that you really didn't expect to be so satisfying, for the both of you. I hope I've given you some idea of what the next few months may bring. It isn't a time to be discouraged, but a time for discovery and rediscovery for the both of you.

There are lots of ways to have sex without an erect penis.

Do not worry so much about the few drops of urine, even when it works a few drops may come out in place of semen, you will never know it. If you normally do it in a shower then fine, if you are asking him to do something different because of the urine then the Psychological impact may limit his erections

At 5 months all is way better in the Sex dept than before I had surgery, but thats with a Trimix injection, imagine your husband lasting for 2 hours straight, any place, any time.

The 1st few months were tough, but once the incontenence passed, my mental outlook toward sex changed light night and day and I was ready for the Trimix

In the meantime, a VED will keep him in shape, the Cialis will stimulate blood flow to promote healing, he should also be taking some L-Arginine to increase blood flow. Walking helps greatly at increasing bloodflow to that area as well

I really want to thank everyone for the replies. I will call his dr tomarrow to see why the wait on Cialis I understand the no sex for 6 weeks not the treatment.

 

dogyluver said...
My husband had open prostatecomy 8/24/09. The catheter and staples removed 9/3/09. From what I have read the the sooner treatment for ED is started the more likely success. But his dr said 6 weeks, is this too long to wait?

Is there a reason you don't trust your surgeon's/physician's advice?  No two men share similar situations/surgeries - and your physician/surgeon knows your husband and health history.  If this were me I'd follow the professional advice.

dogluver, your husband had major open surgery only 16 days ago, way too soon to making sexual attempts, he strongly needs to listen to his dr/surgeon. Six weeks is a pretty standard min, has nothing to do with the catheter coming out or the staples being removed. He just went through a complex surgery, has had his plumbing re-routed, the six weeks is to allow healing deep inside, especially around the bladder neck to the urehtra. There are complicated sutures and internal stiching, that take time to heal properly. That's why they put him on a "don't lift xxx weight" limit too. There be plenty of time later to work on any ED issues, but right now, its time for healing.

David in SC