Mrs WW -
I bumped James C.'s list of ladies sites/forums up for you. I had actually found several of those sites long before I found HW, and they were the source of a lot of good suggestions for pre & post surgery.
A separate thread for the ladies would not be a long term solution, as once these threads get long, they become difficult to manage, and sometimes just get stuck, at which point they have to be locked. Specific subject threads seem to be the best option.
We do have a lot of very long time members who are wives and daughters, and all are both welcome and encouraged to participate, and they do frequently. You are never in the way.