Steve I believe that you were at last nights UsTOO meeting here in Las Vegas. Welcome aboard here at HealingWell. You'll find a lot of men here that have lived through what you are posting here.
For me I was dry at three months. But every man is different. In time things tend to improve. Kegel exercises and Pelvic floor exercises are usually what's prescribed at this stage for you. Here are some links that have a few websites to look at. Have a few clicks at them...
www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=pelvic+floor+exercises+men&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8I have a couple phone numbers if you need help with the floor exercises. There are a couple places in town that have worked with men on these issues. On the ED it tends to take some time as well. Three months is not a long time in recovery from this surgery. I recommend patience and diligence. Stay positive and things do improve.
Tony