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Posted 8/6/2012 10:19 PM (GMT 0)
I am a year and half out from my surgery and I have no sexual desire.  My doc says I have low T level but I cannt afford the meds.  Insurance wont pay for it.  I am currently taking anti depression meds and vitiamns supps which help with the engery level but my desire to have sex is just not there.  My wife, god bless her, understand and says sex is not a big deal for her.  We havent been together in over a year now.  The thing is I dont miss it.  I can watch **** for hours and just be bored or amused by the bad acting but it does nothing for me.  I see a pretty woman and all I do now is admire her beauty.  I am 54 years old and she is 47.  Too young to give up the "whoopy".  Did or does anyone else have this problem?
Posted 8/6/2012 10:31 PM (GMT 0)
Several here have done testosterone supplements, but being only 18 months from surgery, I would think you need more time at an undetectable PSA before doing that. Of course with my rising PSA it could not even be considered, but I have seen other mention that their doctors consider three years at undetectable a minimum.
Posted 8/6/2012 10:31 PM (GMT 0)
Bikerider,

So sorry to read your story and your situation. I know this isn't the whole answer, but many anti-depressents have a side effect of reducing one's sex drive. Two of them I know for sure do, being Lexapro and its older cousing Celexa. They don't take away your ability, but they can almost eliminate any natural desire for sex. I was on Lexapro quite a few years ago, and while it helped for clinical depression at the time, I got to the point, where I never even thought about sex.

How low is your T-level right now, if I may ask. Did you undergo any Hormane Therapy along the way, aside form your surgery, because that too would lower your interest?

When was the last time you had a general medical physical, because there could be other medical reasons that your natural drive is so low at this point in your life.

Glad to hear that your wife is so understanding, because you don't need to feel guilty or any less of a man because of your current situation.

Hope you can get to the bottom of it, for your sake and for your wife. It's a shame that the meds that could help, are so expensive and that most insurances won't pay for them.

David in SC
Posted 8/6/2012 10:46 PM (GMT 0)
I take the generic version of prosac. I was having this problem before I took them. I had a t level of 601. Doc says because of my size and age it should be up near 670. I get a physical every year. Nothing else going on. Thanks for the help guys!
Posted 8/6/2012 11:13 PM (GMT 0)
Prozac will put a lid on your sexual desire. And so will the anxiety of having cancer. Good luck to you.

ed
Posted 8/7/2012 12:08 AM (GMT 0)
Bike

Is your T level that low? It seems like it's well within normal range. I suspect it's the med?

Mel
Posted 8/7/2012 1:29 AM (GMT 0)
Bike, when you said your T level was low, I thought you mean like <100 or something. With a T level of 600+, and I am hardly an expert on the subject of T, I would not think that would be directly connected to your sex drive/interest level. My gut still thinks its the meds and possibly ongoing depression related to the cancer, as Ed suggested above.

david
Posted 8/7/2012 4:39 AM (GMT 0)
600 something is a great T level, that is not a low T level no matter what the doctor says. Low T is considered below 340 by most doctors, normal range from 340-800. It turns out that I have low T, range from 176 to 250. I am currently on T replacement therapy, T up to high 300's now. So far I have noticed increased sex drive (minimal), decreased depression (minimal), but the brain fog I had before has definately lifted. I remember people's names now, and respond better to new situations at work. As long as my psa remains undetectable I will stay on T, on a scale of 1-10, I'd give it a 3....................
Posted 8/7/2012 12:17 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Bikerider ,
A T level of 600 is great - unless it is all bound up.
Do you have a copy of your blood work report?

Check to see what your (SHBG) Sex Hormone Binding Globulin is. It should be in the range of 10-57 nmol/L . In general, the lower the better.
I agree with you. You both are too young to give it up. Especially if you can do it.

Your name raises a question. Does the "Bike" stand for bicycle or motorcycle? If it is the former my urologist once told me: "there are 2 kinds of bike riders, those that are impotent and those that will be." Be careful about your choice of seat. There are a lot of important control nerves in that area.

Hey, I'll trade you a little of my T level and associated desire, for an erection or two. We'd make 4 people happier. Deal?

Jeff in NY
Posted 8/8/2012 1:30 AM (GMT 0)

Bikerider said...
I am a year and half out from my surgery and I have no sexual desire.  My doc says I have low T level but I cannt afford the meds.  Insurance wont pay for it.  I am currently taking anti depression meds and vitiamns supps which help with the engery level but my desire to have sex is just not there.  My wife, god bless her, understand and says sex is not a big deal for her.  We havent been together in over a year now.  The thing is I dont miss it.  I can watch **** for hours and just be bored or amused by the bad acting but it does nothing for me.  I see a pretty woman and all I do now is admire her beauty.  I am 54 years old and she is 47.  Too young to give up the "whoopy".  Did or does anyone else have this problem?

 

To be honest...I believe a lot of it is mental.  I have days where I am in the mood and can get hard and days where I cant....but it all seems to be in the mind.  I didnt have surjury but I had 45 days radiation and also radiated the nerves and seminole vesicles....not to mention Ive been on hormone therapy and my Testosterone level is below 20. Yet I still find a way to get hard now and then and feel very passionate.  Only problem is it only happens about twice a week now and I need the help of Levitra. In your case....you have the T level so the desire is physically there.....you just need to get over the complex in your mind to get your mojo back. I feel the same way...I dont get aroused at all with ****o or hot women anymore...NOTHING. but It has something to do with being my duty to satisfy my wife so I am able to get hard.  Believe me its not the same as before but its good enough for both of us...I have pretty much dry orgasms too but they feel strong.  I believe its mind over matter in many cases and believe me there are days where my mind wants sex but my body just wont cooperate...Good luck in your sexualy adventures and remember...dont be afraid to try different options and toys....some of that stuff works.

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