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We lost the Heart and Soul of HW today and the most gooderest buddy we all loved, Raddad .

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Posted 4/2/2013 11:51 PM (GMT 0)
All of us have been deeply moved by Bud's untimely passing. Hundreds of people, maybe more, feel the profound sense of loss at the death of this good man.

As I was thinking about Bud and his family, my sense of sadness deepened when it occurred to me that this tragedy of a prostate cancer death happens about 30,000 times each year!

Isn't it odd that we so often let the phrase "30,000" per year roll off our lips, but the death of one man brings it all home so intensely? Just as in the case of MrsGFM's husband, the evil of this disease suddenly comes home with great intensity.
Posted 4/3/2013 12:18 AM (GMT 0)
Gigi - when, some day, you read all these notes, from your Grandpa's friends and some who hadn't even met him, it should make you proud. Your Grandpa was a very special guy, and he loved you very much.
Posted 4/3/2013 2:28 AM (GMT 0)
I am sorry to hear the news as well. My prayers are with all friends and family.
Posted 4/3/2013 4:54 AM (GMT 0)
I am so sad! Have only been a member here for a few months, but what a great man Bud was! Always so positive and caring! Gentle hugs to the entire family. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please know we are all sharing your pain.
Posted 4/3/2013 8:58 AM (GMT 0)
Dearest Bud, indeed you will dance at Gigi’s wedding and she will know you are there watching over her, as we all know you are watching over us.
RIP brother, we have been blessed by knowing you.
Susan & Jeff
xx
Posted 4/3/2013 9:40 AM (GMT 0)
Sometimes profound sadness inspires eloquence. That was indeed eloquent Sonny.

Jim
Posted 4/3/2013 10:06 AM (GMT 0)
So sad to read this. Bud was so supportive to everyone. When Jerry passed away he was so caring. He gave us the hope we needed to fight this beast. He is at peace. Just still cannot believe it :(
Posted 4/3/2013 11:27 AM (GMT 0)
Brothers and sisters it has been said that a man is judged by what is said about him after he is gone. I just sat down this morning and read back through all of the posts of tributes to our departed brother Bud and the tears are flowing, not I am not on HT. This is why Bud loved HW and we loved him so much we are a family that cares and watches out for each other in our fight with our beasts. My wife knows how hard Bud's passing has hit me and she suggested last night that maybe I should take a break from HW. I told her that would be the last thing Bud would want me or any of his HW friends to do, to stay here and continue to contribute and offer support to others is the finest tribute any of us can do for Bud.

I have been in contact with Bud's brother Joseph through Face Book. Joe has been a HW stalker for some time and followed Bud's posts every day. He feels like he knows all of us and really loved the banter between Bud and I over GFMPH gatherings. Bud's family is aware of this thread and the love and tributes pouring out for Bud and it means so much to them all. I want to share his message to me last night:

Terry
Bud was also having difficulty breathing which may have been
related to a blood disorder that recently surfaced because of his
weakened immune system.
I just heard from Linda and there should be info about funeral arrangement available tomorrow afternoon.

"crap"...as he called cancer...so true. Horrible stuff.

Am sure Bud is smiling upon the HW family for having the GFMPH gathering be a celebration of his life. Please know and always remember, that although we did
not have a chance to say goodbye...that he cherished the HW "hello"...

The HW family was his outlet for his struggles and he felt the love.

Posted 4/3/2013 12:23 PM (GMT 0)
OH...how we reflect during times like this...

Went to a long time friends funeral a year ago. There were about 150 people that showed up to pay their respects. I still remember telling myself that I wish I had so many friends.....and that I needed to get off my butt and change that.

Don was a PCA brother and did radiation about the same time as my surgery. He ended up dying from Liver Cancer.

He went out in flames knowing his days were numbered. His motto was "you can't take it with you. So enjoy what you can while you can."
Posted 4/3/2013 12:52 PM (GMT 0)
Steve,

I have often thought the same thing about the number of friends I have, which outside HW isn't that many, but when I count my HW friends I do have 100's as do you. Bud and I often talked about the only good thing to come from our PC was Healing Well and all of our new friends all over the world and how much they meant to us.

Terry

Posted 4/3/2013 1:49 PM (GMT 0)
Bud was....how I hate to use past tense, so wonderful to me. He thought it was comical I thought he had a thick New York accent. We shared a love of music, Motown in particular, and often when typing an email, we would tell one another about the songs we were listening to at that particular moment, always at blast volume. lol He was the kind of fellow one comes across now and then, the kind you feel you have known for many years, and I felt this way about Bud. There was an easy, comfortable manner with someone I had never met.

I have so many emails and photos of precious GiGi to remind me of this amazing man. I share the grief everyone here on Healing Well feels about the loss of someone special who became a beacon with such positive energy and kindness towards all.

RIP dear friend.
Posted 4/3/2013 2:12 PM (GMT 0)
Family, I am so sorry for your loss. He was a first rate guy, who I enjoyed sharing a few hours with. He will be missed, but know that he leaves a legacy of courage, humor, and sharing with us that we will long remember. Rest in Peace, Bud

(Bud, since you enjoyed my favorite strength song so much, I'm putting it back in my sig. for you, and so others can share it one last time with you-" We all are better men and women for knowing you")
Posted 4/3/2013 5:57 PM (GMT 0)
Bud's daughter Linda has sent to MsWorrywort a FB message about an update on Bud's funeral arangements and asked to have it put here for all of us to see.

 

We will know more details soon.. my sister is meeting with the funeral home at 3 PM. We are having issues with making an exact date bc we need to take my dad across state lines (from DC to MD.) The service will be in Annapolis, MD. I'll let you know more as soon as available. Thanks so much.

Warm wishes to you and your family. xo

Post Edited (Water Guy) : 4/5/2013 2:36:49 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 4/3/2013 6:15 PM (GMT 0)
Devastating and shocked . My prayers to Raddads' family and friends. RIP.
Posted 4/3/2013 9:01 PM (GMT 0)
I'm a relative newbie here, and I never new Bud on a personal level.

So it may be trite for me to say that his curse of prostate cancer ended up being a blessing for many, particularly in this forum.

As a newbie I've learned a great deal from guys like Bud, and I will be eternally grateful.

His knowledge and support, and the same offered by others like him, are tremendously helpful for guys like me.

I realize that more and more every day.

I only hope that Bud's family knows what a comfort, what a resource, and what a wonderful thing Bud created, for so many.

As men we are prone to get all defensive about being sick, particularly given the very personal side effects of prostate cancer.

It's only through the work of guys like Bud that guys like me feel comfortable sharing such details, and seeking the advice and help from those out there that are so often so very willing to put aside their own troubles and help those of us new to all of this.

So thank you Bud. Thank you very much.
Posted 4/3/2013 9:03 PM (GMT 0)
Kudos to you Aachen, very well said, very moving, and very true. . . . . .
Posted 4/3/2013 10:20 PM (GMT 0)
Terry -- I'm so sorry for your loss. Bud is a loss to all of us, but especially for you and a few others fortunate and good enough to have gotten really close to Bud. I think your donation-in-his-memory idea is a great one -- there is nothing Bud would have liked more than knowing he's helped improve the odds his PC brothers will beat this crap. I'm in. And your plan to print these and share with Bud's family is even better. You're a thoughtful, generous soul. I see why you and Bud clicked so well.

Thank you for being such a good friend to Bud, in life and in death.
Katie
Posted 4/3/2013 11:01 PM (GMT 0)

clocknut said...


Isn't it odd that we so often let the phrase "30,000" per year roll off our lips, but the death of one man brings it all home so intensely? Just as in the case of MrsGFM's husband, the evil of this disease suddenly comes home with great intensity.

Amen...

Indeed it does.

There is another group that I participate in and I have watched 6 ladies each bury their husband in as many months.

Places like HW and the other group I participate in, are so bittersweet at times. I cherish the new friends, and yes they are sincere friends, yet the heartache is often more than we bargain for.

People like Bud, Mrs. GFM's husband, David Emerson, T. Lutrell, T Domier, ... and the list goes on and on...
Makes this beast all to REAL to us at times, in ways other than side effects.

The best way I can describe my feelings on this, is much like the song...

"I could have missed the pain. But I'd have had to miss the dance"

I'll keep dancing in hopes of helping someone.
Posted 4/3/2013 11:07 PM (GMT 0)
None of you know me, but I am a friend of Bud's. I have information on the funeral. If anyone wants to attend, send flowers, or send a card, email me (I've included it below) and I will forward the information.

Amanda

amanda (at) blar (dot) net
Posted 4/3/2013 11:09 PM (GMT 0)
Bud's family, you are in my prayers. Even at a distance Bud touched many of us, as shown by the outpouring from so many on this forum.

Explorer
Posted 4/3/2013 11:46 PM (GMT 0)
I have not been a member of this special club very long, but it does not take a person very many searches of this forum to appreciate the touch that Bud has made on so many threads and lives.

There is no doubt that Bud's responses will be sincerely missed, however, hopefully it can be of some comfort knowing that his contributions here will live on forever, and be of so much benefit to those whom may come here looking for sincere answers.

Bud touched my life through his sharing; my thoughts and prayers go out to his family and friends...
Posted 4/4/2013 1:04 AM (GMT 0)
My prayers and thoughts to Bud's family,

my best regards

Geoff

Posted 4/4/2013 2:02 AM (GMT 0)
Very sad news,
Love and peace to all,
Mike
Posted 4/5/2013 6:43 PM (GMT 0)
I am so saddened to learn about this! Prayers for his family at a difficult time! May they find peace knowing what comfort he provided to others on here! One of a kind for sure!
Posted 4/6/2013 7:58 PM (GMT 0)
I will be at the services in Baltimore tomorrow and Monday. I have printed out this whole thread and I will take them to the memorial services with me, so everyone of our brave brothers and sisters who have posted in this thread will be at the service with me. Buds family and friends will have a chance to see how much our Raddad and their Bud, touched so many lives in Healing Well. Thank you so much for all the love on these pages written from your hearts.

Terry

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