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Posted 4/5/2013 4:01 PM (GMT 0)

Prostate Cancer

Why me?  Why not?

Why did I choose surgery? When will I feel I did the right thing?

Why are we all different?  Why are all our side effects different.

When will they stop? When will they get better?

Why do I feel my Surgeon did not do a good job on the nerve sparing surgery he did. When will i think he did?

Why do I wish I had chosen someone else?

Why didn't I think longer on my decision?

When will I be happy with the decision I made?

Why ED?

Why do I have to use the pump?

When can I stop?

Why won't pills help everyone?

Why am I having a hard time with getting injections to work?

When will I realize to be patient with them, it will take time?

Why does it seem like I am shrinking and like I've never been circumsized?

Why am I not glad they found it early?

When will I realize I am Blessed they did?

When will I know that it could have been worse?

Why has my attitude changed?

Why do I look at things so different now?

Why do I ask my self these questions daily?

When will I really be happy again?

Why aren't things easier once we get older?

Why did the Air Conditioning on my truck break right before summer?

      I am a little over a year out of surgery and I am doing ok. I am about 95% continent but I am at 100% ED.

     Life is good with a loving wife of 40 years, great kids and grandkids.

My health is good and I am about a year away from retiring.

      I am really blessed.

     I am very thankful for this forum knowing that we can tell each other rather bluntly how we feel. I wish I would have found it a long time ago.

     All of your posts help me and others as well.

     My prayers are with all of you, my PC brothers.

                       Thank  you

Posted 4/5/2013 4:41 PM (GMT 0)
Wessy,
I think that I may have an answer to all of your questions ... especially the last one. Buy a new car ... it's GFMPH.
Posted 4/5/2013 4:41 PM (GMT 0)
Can't tell if that's some type of poem or if you're asking for answers on all of the questions confused
Posted 4/5/2013 4:51 PM (GMT 0)
Wessy,
I hear ya, I look at life a whole differant way, life's good.
Posted 4/5/2013 5:02 PM (GMT 0)
Here's another way to look at what I think Wessy is saying - contained in the lyrics to the song "Be Grateful" by a C&W group called "The Farm":

The other day I called myself complaining
 Now my boss has got me working over time
 Then the stranger who was sitting there beside me
 Said ,I spent all day in the unemployment
 Are there open shifts, are they hiring on
 I'll work any hours even all night long
 If you could put a good word in for me
 
 Everytime you think you got it bad
 You can find someone who's got it worse
 All the things you take for granted now
 They started out as blessings first
 If you got someone who loves you
 And a steady job that puts food on the table
 If you're strong and able
 Man , be grateful
 
 We complain about how much it's gonna cost us
 To feel our 20 something thousand dollars cars
 And living in the land of milk and honey
 It's so easy to forget how lucky we are
 We can work hard and buy a patch of dirt
 And on sunday morning we can go to church
 And pray for those who don't have it as good as you
 
 Everytime you think you got it bad
 You can find someone who's got it worse
 All the things you take for granted now
 They started out as blessings first
 If you got someone who loves you
 And a steady job that puts food on the table
 If you're strong and able
 Man , be grateful

 

Here's a link to the video of the same song:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N4iKvQCWjwI

 

Another song I've adopted and listen to, a lot. . . .

 

Peace to all....
Posted 4/5/2013 5:03 PM (GMT 0)
AMEN Wessy !!!!
Posted 4/5/2013 5:05 PM (GMT 0)
stvn dallas.Whether its poem or not if you got the answers, As Ross Perot would say I'm all ears.

Wessy, Nice declaration of humanness……..
Posted 4/5/2013 5:25 PM (GMT 0)
Wessy,

You know that act you saw once in a circus? The one where an acrobat juggled five indian clubs while standing on his head on a bowling ball? And he had a small dog in a silly costume standing on the soles of his feet, doing back flips and barking in time to the music? That act?

Well I always admired that guy. Not just because of his skill and hard work, but because he could do something that I could never learn to do ... ever.

I often feel that way about the positive attitudes of some of our friends here at HealingWell. They simply astound me. I could never do that.

The best I can manage is summed up in a saying that I want to embroider in needle point to make a sampler to hang over my desk:

................This is the Day
...........That the Lord hath made.
...........Let us cut Him some slack
........And try to make the best of it.

Post Edited (PeterDisAbelard) : 4/5/2013 11:41:42 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 4/5/2013 5:39 PM (GMT 0)
Wessy:

I don't remember your age, but if you have grand kids maybe you're in your 60s?

If so, that might be one of the many possible answers, the olde rone is, the harder it is to respond as positively to potential SEs.

I don't know who your surgeon was, what his experience was, and the extent of your cancer. But those are often also contributing factors.

That said, you are a yea rout and many people experience improvements into the second and third year.

Have you thought of seeing a specialist?
Posted 4/5/2013 6:30 PM (GMT 0)

Steve,

It's not a poem, its just questions I ask myself everyday, and I mean everyday.

Sorry it didn't post my singnature.

Posted 4/8/2013 1:31 PM (GMT 0)
It does get better after time.

I spent 5 hours Saturday watching my grandson play baseball.

I had a great time here in sunny florida and not once did I think about my problems.

I was just happy to be able to be there.

Life is good!

Posted 4/8/2013 2:00 PM (GMT 0)
good expression of what is on your mind, well done

we all have those mental lists going, doesn't hurt to put them on paper or verbalize

gfmh = good for mental health

thanks

david
Posted 4/8/2013 2:23 PM (GMT 0)
Great thread wessy! Don't give up on the Trimix. I also started a year out and did not see good results for the first 4 months. Then I gave it a break for about a month. I just restarted and it is like starting all over again, so persistence will pay off.
Posted 4/8/2013 2:35 PM (GMT 0)
We hear you Wessy.
Unfortunately we don't have the answers but we are all here gunning for you. DO NOT GIVE UP - keeping everything crossed that things start to improve for you in the ED department. In the meantime keep enjoying all the good things you have in your life.
Sending you a hug.
Susan
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