Redwing,
On HW, we want to be sure there is no possibility to identify someone from information posted here, as the posts themselves are open to any search. That is a site rule.
Some of us here can't be open, and some can't have any recognizeable internet presence at all due to insurance, but more often employment conditions.
The ladies are a bit more open than we are to begin with (except that on HW they have the same rules), but they are also given somewhat more consideration and acceptance in their workplaces.