Welcome aboard Finchrat! Sorry we had to meet like this but glad you found us at this time in your life. When I was told "you have cancer", the next thing my uro told me was from this point on, your life is going to change. Boy was he ever right. We all know what you are going through right now. That is the magic of Healing Well, one guy helping another.
Some of these guys on HW are VERY knowledgable about
prostate cancer. Most of what I have learned has been in the past year through my doctors and this web site. I don't hold a candle to some of these guys in knowledge of PCa. The reason for my post is I have never seen a guy on HW with such similar numbers to me as you. You can check below in my signature to compare.
I, in no way, want to talk you into any form of treatment. You need to investigate all options yourself and decide which is best For You! Since we are so closely matched, I just want to tell you what treatment plan I chose, why and what I went through.
Your head must be swimming with all this new found information.
First off, ALL treatments have side effects! You need to find out what they are and what you are willing to live with.
When I was diagnosed, the first thing my wife said was "Get it out!". I told her to slow down and let me think this out. I called both of my sisters the same day I was dx, both are breast cancer survivors. They both said "Get it out". Now I am begining to feel out numbered, as you can imagine. Any way, after about
2 weeks of thinking and reading Dr. Walsh's book, Guide to Surviving Prostate Cancer, which I highly suggest you get, I decided on surgery. There was no Healing Well yet to
influence my decision. I met with my uro and he suggested Dr. Vipul Patel, who has done more da Vinci surgeries than anyone in the world, currently over 6,000! Dr. Patel is located about
180 miles from me so it was a no brainer for me.
As has been mentioned, I needed to wait about
6-8 weeks before having surgery to heal some after the biopsy. I met with Dr. Patel, I really like him a lot, and we scheduled the surgery.
Now I had a large tumor also, Dr. Patel estimated it had been growing in me for about
10 years. The biopsy said I was a Gleason 6 but that was upgraded to GL7 after surgery, which often happens. I had positive margins which means that the cancer was detected right where he cut the prostate out. This indicates that there may still be some cancer left and then again he may have got it all. Also, I had the cancer coming out of the capsule. For all these reasons, that is why some of the guys are suggesting radiation to you. I did not want radiation, I wanted it out!
I don't need the prostate anymore and I especially didn't want a nasty cancerous prostate in me.
Fast forward to now, 15 months later. All my PSA reports are Zero, undetectable, meaning no cancer has been detected. As someone also has mentioned, men with large tumors sometimes take longer to become continent. I still use 2-3 pads a day. I have decided to have no more surgeries to get completely dry. I can tolerate some dribbling. ED issues are still a work in progress but coming along nicely.
I understood the side effects of surgery and accepted them. Getting the cancer out of me was my main goal. We have a saying around here, "dead men don't have sex". I also figured if I didn't have sex again, oh well, at least it was fun while it lasted. Now the orgasms are more intense and they are DRY! Yep, no fuss, no muss.
Again, this is what I did with numbers like you have. You must decide the risk. You must decide the side effects and as I said, all treatments have risk and side effects. Maybe I was lucky, if you can call dribbles at 15 months out luck. Maybe I wasn't and this happens all the time with a Great Surgeon.
If you decide on surgery, get yourself a rock star surgeon! There are about
a dozen that we have in the USA. You said you are willing to travel. I will be happy to talk to you more if you would like. My email is live, just click on the envelope by my name to the left of this post.
Good luck with your decision. Read our posts, read Dr. Walsh's book, a new 3rd edition was just released, talk to several doctors to research different treatment plans. Once you make your decision, embrace it and don't look back. Make it your decision, and yours alone.
Regards,
Bill from Florida