leakage

sorry if this has been asked before I'm new here. Prostate was removed last year and every thing is ok. The problem I have is when I have sex I don't ejaculate like before (I knew it wouldn't) I seem to pee? Is this really urine?

When you had your prostate removed the surgeon also took one of your two urinary sphincters (the one between your prostate and the bladder). That's the one that clamps tightly when you are aroused. The other sphincter (the one you have left) tends to relax a bit when you are aroused. It is designed to allow semen to pass while the other sphincter (the one that's gone) clamps tight shut so you ejaculate forward instead of backward into your bladder. For some men the remaining sphincter will eventually be able to hold even when they have sex. But for quite a few men it doesn't.

Kegel exercises help but may not help enough. The urine is reasonably sterile and is harmless to your partner. For what it's worth...

This just started happening to me....I am 4 1/4 years post surgery and 2 1/2 years post radiation so it took a while to appear...I also did not have any continence issues after catheter was removed. As the pee/orgasm issue surfaced the other thing I am noticing (like when shoveling snow yesterday) I leak at times of exertion.....I wonder if it's just general breakdown after almost 5 years or if it's related specifically post-radiation....I'll Kegel and hope it doesn't get worse. I can live with with it as it is now. No pads needed...

Do you leak at other times or just at orgasm?

Same here." Golden showers, my lady?" Also discovered that an unexpected sneeze or cough, especially while driving, can be wet and disappointing. Need to pack backup clothing or pad back up.