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Posted 3/30/2014 4:14 AM (GMT 0)
I'm starting to get scared, I was able have intercourse at the 6th and 8th week my wife and I only try once a week cause of kids and cost of viagra. I had decent erection last week and lost it while ettempting intercourse. This week not good at all. I felt I was on my way a couple of weeks ago. Don't know if this is in my big head or little one feeling frantic ANY ADVICE I do stimulate my self during the week to get blood flowing down there
Posted 3/30/2014 5:30 AM (GMT 0)
 

John,

       It's been almost a year now for me without any decent erections. I used the Trimix for awhile with success but then I developed "peyronies disease" which has deformed me and left me even more screwed up then before. My beautiful fiance is now acting a little different toward me and I don't think we are going to make it because of my constant failures with erections. My love life has been destroyed with this problem. With that being said, here is what I can suggest in common terms and problably the best thing to do is get some professional help. Patience is the key.

1) Make sure you talk to your wife about what is going on with you. Don't hold back and find the way to talk about it when you can. This might clear the way for you to reduce your anxiety over this ED crap. She is probably feeling as odd as you are right now, This really screws things up. The more you talk the better

2) I don't think this ED thing has a short cut. I tried taking tons of Viagra and Cialiss with little result. I have tried to create erections every single day because I keep hearing you need to keep all those valves open and working.

I have heard that the suction thing is good because it forces blood to come into every area of your penis.

3) Get a good penis ring. Get your erection going then place the penis ring on that should help a lot. Make sure

it's tight . So put the ring on and figure out what it takes to get it erect with the ring on.

Leave the ring on for like 20 minutes or less if it becomes uncomfortable. This will keep your penis filled. Keep it filled for as long as possible and keep it as hard as you can get it to keep the blood pressure filled and hard.

4) Take the ED meds on an empty stomach--

5) I don't avoid alcohol and I don't exercise enough because I think I have become depressed over this whole thing, but exercise and avoiding alcohol will probably help a lot.

Thats all I have maybe someone has more to add.

This is a subject that needs to be discussed more -- I don't know but something tells me that hundreds of thousands of lives are being ruined over this post OP ED thing and no one is really talking about it much because it seems trivial compared to the PCA.

 

Posted 3/30/2014 12:14 PM (GMT 0)
Ed is a bummer!

Personally, I think it takes time ... lots of time if you've had nerve sparing surgery; if not -- we'll there is always injections.

i've had good erections in the first few weeks, then they dissipated somewhat. I'm positive that good erections will come back. In the meanwhile I do the "exercises" and I do get a really good hardon when I have a dry orgasm. In fact that’s not true -- I ejaculate piss and my dick stays hard for a few minutes after that! Perhaps I've become multi-orgasmic (just a thought) but I'm happy -- I just got to get the sequence right!

Keep on playing with it!

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Posted 3/30/2014 12:37 PM (GMT 0)
Careful with the rings. My uro says absolutely no more than 15 minutes for those.

But do try the pump daily. Without the rings, it is still good to keep the pipes cleaned out. Some will say pumps are useless, but they do keep the tissue stretched and at the same time help plaque from building up. A trimix shot might help as well.

And, the good of the bad news, it can take years. My surgeon won't even consider an implant for at least two years.
Posted 3/30/2014 12:43 PM (GMT 0)
John,

A couple of random thoughts that might help:

1) Talk to your uro about "generic sildenafil" which can be taken off-label for ED. Sildendafil is exactly the same drug as in Viagra but it is used in a different dose for a different condition. Pfeiser's patent has several years to run for the use of sildenafil for ED but the patent for using it to treat pulmonary arterial hypertension has run out. I have found I can get it for about a dollar a pill. It takes five pills (20mg) to equal one (100mg) viagra but at five bucks a pop its still a savings.

2) One a week isn't often enough to prevent atrophy if your erectile nerves are sufficiently damaged that you no longer get nocturnal erections.

3) It is common for men who are potent six weeks after surgery to be struggling at six months. Often the nerves continue to get worse for several months after surgery and then they start to recover.

4) Dr. John Mulhall has a really good book you can read, in which you will find, among other things, my statement in item "3)" above. Amazon Link (Kindle)

5) Once you lose confidence it becomes much more difficult to achieve an erection. Adrenaline acts strongly on erectile tissues to deflate them.
Posted 3/30/2014 2:00 PM (GMT 0)
John-

Perhaps you are feeling anxious about erections, which is actually causing the problem to be worse.

ED and anxiety are a vicious circle. ED causes a person to be anxious -> which causes (due to production of adrenaline) worse ED -> which causes more anxiety -> etc -> etc. This topic is covered in Dr. Mulhall's book (linked below).

Perhaps deal with anxious feelings (even if you don't feel anxious) see if that results in a natural improvement in ED.

-Gedman
Posted 3/30/2014 2:46 PM (GMT 0)
Are you getting good erections on your own? If you are, then the good news is that you can. I used a pump in the early months to keep the tissue blood nourished and got erections with Cialias at about 4 months, but they would fizzle quickly when actually needed. Like you, I was getting worried, frustrated, angry, etc. The best thing I did was ask my surgeon about this and basically he said that if you can get them on your own, the problem is between your ears and not between your legs. Believe it or not, just hearing that from the doctor put an end to the problem for me. At almost exactly one year from surgery I didn't even need meds anymore. Patience and practice!

Best wishes,
Tom
Posted 3/30/2014 9:57 PM (GMT 0)
I know how your feeling.

I'm just a tad over a year from surgery with no measurable erections, well, nothing that lasts more than a minute anyway.

I think the promise of better days is what keeps me going. It does get discouraging though.

I keep telling myself I'm going to talk to the doctor about injections at the next appointment, but I never do. sad
Posted 3/30/2014 10:38 PM (GMT 0)
I have to chime in here - I know this won't be welcomed input to everyone, but if you reach a conclusion that the ED is a permanent problem, there is a very viable solution. At 4 years out, and after having developed Peyronie's, an implant has completely solved my problems. It is a very big commitment, because you can't go back, but anxiety over getting an erection is gone, and I can be spontaneous again.

I'd recommend trying injections before going this route, for some it is all that is needed for satisfaction. I also think that you should try to do whatever means you can to keep blood flowing to the region for recovery.

I wouldn't recommend it for anyone that is less than 2 years out from surgery, because you want to be convinced that you aren't going to recover to your satisfaction. However, my main point is this - don't stress out too much over this - there is at least one solution, and my experience is that it worked really well for me.
Posted 3/31/2014 1:11 AM (GMT 0)
6-8 weeks out, is still pretty soon to expect stellar results in my opinion. For the majority of men in your situation, you simply may need patience to allow further healing. A lot of nerve damage was done, and nerve damage, when healable, can take long periods. Have read that nerves often only regrow at the rate of 1/10th of an inch per year.

As far as the ED meds, plenty of men here (not myself) can offer you better advice about what to try, and how often to try them. You may need to adjust what you are using and how you are using them.

Good luck, and don't give up hope, you are still early in the game.

David
Posted 3/31/2014 2:41 AM (GMT 0)
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You might want to check your link. Maybe you intended to mention a different site that you know nothing about.

I'll check back later. If you've put up an address that works I'll whack it then.

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Posted 3/31/2014 4:55 AM (GMT 0)
After a chat with myself thru the wormhole, Ihe, said it was new.yada yada.yada. IHe said it was there if I had Ii's to c. I know you like hats, I have a spare aluminum hat, but my head may be to big for you, tho I think not.
Posted 3/31/2014 8:24 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for all responses,
Reltnie -I tried Viagra for the first time by myself, I usually save that for my wife anyway had my best response to date and kept it going for a long time to keep the blood in there. Today feels like a good day just entered the zero club on Friday and then it looked (hank) to me to be around %90. Guess I better not mention it to my wife it will hurt her feelings but dam Im a happy camper today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for your words of encouragement I can assume the problem is between my ears now, guess Ill be going in debt for Viagra while I heal
Posted 3/31/2014 8:42 PM (GMT 0)
Good for you!! No wonder you were having issues--pending PSA tests would definitely cause me stress and neutralize sexual function. Congratulations on your zero club membership and on the other front too. It will all be a distant memory soon as it appears you're on your way to a full recovery.

Tom yeah
Posted 3/31/2014 9:06 PM (GMT 0)

John, you actually described your problem when you said...
Guess I better not mention it to my wife it will hurt her feelings ...

Men worry about disappointing their partners but they don't worry about hurting the feelings of Mary Five-fingers. So with their wives they have performance anxiety and by themselves they don't.

What helps is to have a pre-agreed plan B with your wife if Mr Unreliable decides to disappoint. That way when that little voice in the back of your head says "Oh no! What if it happens again?" you will have an answer.
Posted 3/31/2014 10:23 PM (GMT 0)
5 months Post Op - nothing happening for me on Cialis and Viagra. Now have Quad mix, seeing the Dr. Wednesday for instructions and I look forward to having an erection! I never thought I would ever say that, but it is getting awfully depressing at the oddest times. Yes worried about the injections, but the idea of having my friend back is a complete morale boost.
My Dr. said this is part of the treatment, try the pills, if they work great, if not take the next step. He does subscribe to use it or lose it, and his discussing such things with an indian accent is hilarious. Now if he could just prescribe an escort service and have my insurance pay for it my therapy will be complete!

BTW - PSA<.01, no leaks until I sneeze, I heard golf will produce some leaks, I look forward to finding out!
Posted 4/1/2014 1:42 AM (GMT 0)
LOL Ross
Posted 4/1/2014 8:05 PM (GMT 0)
I think you're well on your way to recovery if you can get an erection after 8 weeks...even a partial. I used the pump after 3 months and then graduated to Viagara after that. Six months post surgery I was able to skip the Viagara but it didn't always work. After 2 years I was recovered to the point where I totally ditched the pills and was always able to perform, just a bit variable in the hardness dept. It's now 3 years post surgery and I'm 100% hard and same size as pre surgery...it was a long road but time all healed with time.

I remember feeling sorry for myself the  first year thinking sex will never be the same however a supportive wife and time has changed that attitude to one of thanks for a complete recovery. Three years is a long time but you get to practice during the wait and the more you "practice" the better the results.

r

 

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