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Posted 4/29/2014 5:01 AM (GMT 0)
I was going to complain and ask for advice about how I can finish off the darn dribbles I still have. Then I read other recent posts to this forum, and am reminded that my troubles are far less important than those who are recently joining this group. Understand that there really are lots of current and new therapies for anyone joining this "club". I was in the same place only a few months ago. I will refocus my efforts (again) on kegels and stop feeling sorry for myself! Good luck to the rest of you.
Posted 4/29/2014 12:12 PM (GMT 0)
Rugby

I am going through the annoying dribble still,my surgery was in June. Last week my PSA was at .02 so my dribble I can live with. You are right with the struggles of so many men with PC I have nothing to complain about. Good luck on your kegels and hope you get that tap fixed.
Posted 4/29/2014 12:16 PM (GMT 0)
If you don't mind me asking, how are you bearing up a few months in? Any advice from how you're coping (or not as may be the case) with it?

(I'm one of those just at the start)
Posted 4/29/2014 2:16 PM (GMT 0)
sometimes complaining a little bit is therapeutic and we'd listen...
Posted 4/29/2014 2:26 PM (GMT 0)
If we don't keep complaining how are the new guys supposed to know that they are not all alone with their problems?

That's why I keep up my steady stream of whining.
Posted 4/29/2014 4:03 PM (GMT 0)
Your post reminded me of one of my Dad's old sayings: "I had no shoes and complained, until I met a man who had no feet."

I suppose there's some truth to that, but I see HW as a place where we all can talk about our individual challenges and complaints, even knowing that there are other guys here on the forum who are in much worse shape and who are having to deal with some really bad situations.

I think Peter DA is right. All of our individual complaints provide an education for those new to the disease. They're able to see the whole range of conditions that men are dealing with, from the irritating occasional dribble to the ravages of advanced metastatic disease. All of these posts add value to the site.
Posted 4/29/2014 8:01 PM (GMT 0)
I felt exactly the same way almost 5 years ago. I was asking about a drippy faucet while others were talking about having their roof torn off and their garage flattened by a tornado.
While it does not sound like a serious problem, the constant drip, drip, drip, becomes a form of Chinese Water Torture and can drive you crazy.
Think about this for a minute. Answer this question honestly, "How much has the dripping changed your life?" Consider: sex, sleeping, outdoor activities, driving, walking, drinking... so, yeah, it IS a big deal. It is YOUR big deal and by bringing it up you are helping other guys.

I promise, you won't find one guy here who will criticize and tell you it is no big deal. We get it.

I got through my dark, wet period by knowing that incontinence can be fixed. I knew I had to wait a year, but there would be a dry light at the end of the tunnel. That made a big difference in my mind.

I hope it helps you too.
Jeff
Posted 4/29/2014 9:22 PM (GMT 0)
Ronnie,
I'm doing ok overall. My surgery was Oct 8, 2013 so really almost 7 months ago. I felt I was pretty much on the "normal" timetable for recovery, based on Dr Catalona's advice, for the first 4 months or so. I was past the weight restrictions so I could lift more than 25 pounds again. My incision wasn't completely healed - actually it still has a lump or two of scar tissue. I'm still 100% dependent on bi-mix for erections. During the work week I only use one pad most days, and often it's the same one I wore overnight. I would wear a pad in my underwear with pj's. Later I went without the pad and let the few drips get absorbed in my briefs. Most recently I just wear pj's. Except when I drink I leak more so use a pad. When I'm active I leak lots more, like 3 or 4 pads on an active Saturday. Not that they are saturated like months ago but sometimes the drip misses the target so I change it before my pants get wet.

Good luck to you.
Posted 4/29/2014 11:48 PM (GMT 0)
It's good to read and prepare for the type of things that are to come for me.

Good luck to you too Rigby.
Posted 4/30/2014 3:09 AM (GMT 0)
Rigby,

I am a leaker at 4.5 years. But I have learned the tricks of buying pads on sale with coupons.

My uro would do additional surgery, but as we both agree, risks of surgery may be greater than the rewards.

Yes, I leak, and when walking, I lean. The recovery sisters. (If you didn't catch it, Ileak and Ilean).
Posted 4/30/2014 4:03 AM (GMT 0)
Hello Rigby,

My husband is still dribbling 14 months after surgery, but much less than before (he is seeing progress).  Just take one day at a time and have lots of patience. This pc process is challenging both physically and mentally.

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